Ever been treated badly, daughter-in-law still gives property to ex-in-law’s parents

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20 years ago, having just graduated from university, a girl from the Central Highlands returned to Tri Ton district, An Giang province to become a bride because she fell in love with Mr.

The peaceful and happy life together was only a year. After that, almost every day, after work, Mr. T also went to play football and then “crossed out” with friends until late at night. Ms. N. is very upset because she takes care of her small child alone, has no friends to share and has no place to “escape” to entertain.

When she nagged at her husband, her mother-in-law defended her son: “Men have to go out and communicate with friends. Once upon a time, my mother raised five children alone and complained to anyone.” She concluded: “There is no man in this country who does not drink, if you like it, you must accept it”.

N.’s mother-in-law does not like her daughter-in-law from “other countries”, so she always considers her features. She went to the kitchen, she criticized “cooking” and then re-seasoned the dishes, and N. couldn’t eat because “sweet like tea”.

She did not let her children sleep in a hammock, her mother-in-law said: “In this whole country, every child sleeps in a hammock”. She trained her children to sleep alone and pumped milk to feed her baby bottles, so that the child would not wrap her mother when she went to work, her mother-in-law said: “What kind of mother is like a stepmother, taking care of children is weird”…

Therefore, when there is no husband to support, Ms. N. feels lost and lonely. This feeling increased when her husband changed jobs, had to go inter-provincial continuously, only once a month to return home. Meanwhile, her relationship with her mother-in-law was strained. She thinks that she is ignorant, her husband works hard and is not grateful, but also laments and blames. She decided to break up when her daughter was 12 years old. Mr. T. persuaded his wife, but she was determined to divorce.

Before the court date, the brothers and sisters took each other to a cafe to discuss. She wanted to raise a child. Mr. T also wants to raise his son, because he is used to living at the house of his grandfather and friends, and his school is also here.

Ms. N. persuaded: “You are a girl, I will let you raise her until she is 18 years old. At that time, I chose to live with my father or mother and were happy.” Hearing his wife say that is also reasonable, so Mr. T. agrees. Moreover, it is important that he does not want to compete with the person he once loved and still loves.

When he learned that his son was divorced and ceded custody of the children to his wife, T.’s mother struggled, scolded him for being “stupid”, “being tricked by his wife”, and forced him to appeal and gain custody of the children. However, Mr. T. disagrees. Unable to win grandchildren, she was angry and did not allow her son to return to the couple’s coffee shop to share with her daughter-in-law.

Ms. N. went out of her husband’s house empty-handed (how much money the husband and wife invested in the coffee shop) carrying a wounded heart. At first, she was also sad that her husband was weak, greedy for joy, unable to cultivate and maintain family happiness. However, when she brought her son back to the mountain town, seeing that he was sad because he missed his father and grandfather’s house, she calmed her anger, so she tried to keep her son’s good relationship with his father and grandfather. She and her ex-husband are still in regular contact. Every three months, Mr. T goes to Gia Lai to visit the mother and daughter and provide a part of the child-rearing expenses.

The “former” husband and wife, their children took each other to have breakfast and drink coffee as if they were still living happily together. My children’s studies, choosing a school for their children, what they have in mind… she informed her ex-husband and discussed it with him. She always let him participate in the care and future orientation of her children.

The two became friends for about five years, when Mr. T had a traffic accident and died at the end of 2020. She took her son to her husband’s hometown for mourning and then she set up an altar at home for her children to burn incense.

Recently, she received a phone call from her sister-in-law, her sister-in-law called her mother and daughter about inheritance division. According to Mr. T’s wish, he wanted to leave the cafe to his wife and his inheritance to his children.

She discussed with her daughter and the mother and daughter agreed to transfer this property to their parents-in-law for retirement. Friends say that she is foolish, because the salary of civil servants is only enough to live, now adding this asset will help her to be lighter when her children are about to go to college. But Ms. N. firmly: “For many years, without this property, mother and daughter still live well. Grandparents are old, no income. I’m not kind, or noble, but just because they’re my children’s grandparents.”

After the trip to An Giang, Ms. N. combined with her friends to travel to Phu Quoc. Looking at her radiant, happy, few think that she is a woman who has had many problems in her marriage. After the divorce, she soon balanced her life, did not fall into confrontation, resented her ex-husband and lived quite gently.

“After the divorce, just put the children’s interests first, but the advantages and disadvantages, the adult’s calculations not only have no place, but also keep the good feelings before” – Ms. N. shared.

According to www.phunuonline.com.vn