The more parents step back, the more children move forward, the EQ develops dramatically

Whether a child grows up successfully or not depends on many factors. Among them, the most important thing is family education. Because parents are the first teachers of their children, and also the people who have the greatest influence on the children.

However, the education of young children is not overnight. There are four things below, the more “tolerant” parents are, the better their children will be, the more confident they will be, their high EQ, and when they grow up, they will be very talented.

1. Don’t get angry and don’t yell

Many parents have lost patience and lost their temper with their children. For young children, when they fall into this situation, they will panic, gradually affecting their confidence.

One parent shared that she lost patience and yelled at her 3-year-old son. At that time the boy was afraid to move, after a while he burst into tears. For parents of school-going children, this is even more common. There are parents who, while teaching their children, couldn’t help but get angry.

This is because kids in 1st and 2nd grade are in the process of developing study habits. Entering primary school, children are forced to do homework, easily bored and easily dependent on their parents, this process will make parents feel helpless.

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In fact, when parents scold and lose their temper like that, the child will be affected, leading to a later temperament forming in a bad direction, easily irritable and short-tempered.

Because parents’ bad moods and temperaments affect their children, on the contrary, children will learn these things and form a vicious circle with no way out. If parents can form some rules with their children in advance to control their emotions, it will help reduce the burden and help children control themselves. This helps children’s EQ develop in a more positive direction.

2. Don’t overprotect your child

In the eyes of parents, children are always children no matter how old they are, so they are always worried about their children being bullied or having trouble outside.

From the moment of birth, parents are used to feeding their children. But if the child is 3 years old and the parents still feed the child and choose each set of clothes, the child will form dependency and not know how to be independent. As they get older, they will lack basic life skills and have no opinions of themselves.

In some families, when children go to primary school, parents will arrange the furniture from the night before. Even some families with children reaching adulthood still do not allow their children to do housework. This shows the love of parents but is not good for children.

If parents are too protective of their children and do everything for them, they will gradually raise their children into “giant babies”. At that time, children growing up not only do not appreciate their parents’ efforts, but even blame them for taking away their independence.

One girl said that she grew up in the overprotection of her parents from an early age. After entering university, she realized that compared to her classmates, she seemed to know nothing. She feels guilty and self-deprecating because of this.

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If parents overprotect their children, the child will lack the ability to be independent. Obviously, when going out in society, children will have to face everything alone. For those who have been fully experienced since childhood, have strong self-care and independence abilities, they will easily solve problems and find their way. Conversely, those who grow up surrounded by parents find it difficult to adapt and lose their way.

Therefore, if parents really love their children, they should let them explore, challenge and grow up on their own.

3. Don’t interfere too much with your child’s choices

“Parents do everything for their children’s sake”, this is what many parents want to say to their children. It is also a justification for meddling in children’s affairs, satisfying their own “desire to control”.

Some parents like to be interested in everything from what they eat, who they play with, what books they read, what clothes they wear… Parents have to be the ones in control of everything. Over time, children who grow up in such families will not have their own opinions and become passive.

Undeniably, from a parent’s perspective, anyone wants their child to be successful and not make mistakes. Parents are also adults and go through many things, so some circumstances can be expected. But such prohibition makes children become reserved, fearful, lose the ability to think independently and live independently.

When children are 2 or 3 years old, parents should let their children decide some things within their ability. In this way, when children grow up, they will be more assertive and self-aware, later when they leave their parents and go out into society, they will have their own responsibilities and opinions.

The end

From the moment a child is born, parents hope to give their child the best. But it is this love that makes parents want to protect their children too much, thereby causing “side effects”.

In fact, in this process, parents have taken away the opportunity for their children to experience and grow up, deprive their children of their independence, and reduce their creativity and self-control.

Rousseau once said, “The three most useless educational methods in the world are: reason, losing temper, and controlling”. Therefore, if you really love your child, parents must definitely accept the above 3 things.

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