Debating whether men should give up seats to women
In many countries, giving up the seat to women is not only a polite convention, but to some extent, it is considered an obligation, a standard to judge men.
Most opinions agree that healthy and good men should give up their seats to the elderly and weak, regardless of gender, disabled people, young children and pregnant women.
But should men give up their seats to healthy women who don’t have health problems?
“Why do men have to do this? Refusing to give up seats to the weaker sex is a sign of moral corrosion and lack of masculinity”, a British reader wondered.
Image in a secret social experiment carried out on London Underground trains continuously for a month, 2018 of female journalist Anna Whitehouse (pretending to be pregnant) gave results only 5 times she be given a seat, including a direct request. Image: Labible.
In 2019, writer and journalist Nirpal Dhaliwal, 45, expressed her views on Good Morning Britain! (Good morning England!) that men and women are equal, have to go to work, lose money to buy tickets and maintain their lives. “So why should I be condemned and criticized if I don’t give up my seat to a girl who is physically fit, in good health?”, the writer from London said during a debate on the topic “is feminism is killing chivalry?”
Dhaliwal believes that many men are condemned for not being generous in helping women. “But it was a one-way operation. That meant we were always under the obligation to give kindness. But no woman had ever given up her seat, even as I limped out of the car due to an injury. They were Nor did he open the door or pull up a chair for me,” he said.
Dr Oliver Scott Curry, an expert on human behavior, at the University of Oxford, UK, said: ‘Everyone is waiting for men to help because they think it is the right thing to do. Gogglebox star and social etiquette expert Mary Kille also mentioned the custom that “men always have to give way to women and elders”.
In a UK survey of 2,000 regular commuters, only 60% of respondents said they would give up their seat to a pregnant woman. Meanwhile, 30% feel this is only necessary if women are pregnant in the last months of pregnancy.
Noreen Khan, presenter of the BBC Asian Network and a comedian who participated in the debate with Dhaliwal, said she had never expected a man to give up his seat. But she still gladly accepted if someone suggested. She said feminism and chivalry can “coexist”. Such an action would not contradict feminist values.
“I consider myself a feminist and don’t feel offended if a generous man offers to help. I’m willing to say ‘yes, please’ if he helps open the car door or carry it for me.” luggage, even if it’s not requested,” Noreen said, noting that “not giving up a seat to a woman does not judge a man’s character”.
As for Dhaliwal, he thinks he will only give up his seat and offer to help those he sees in need.
Minh Phuong (According to BBC, Independent, Mirror)
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