7 signs that you are being “psychological abuse”

Mentally manipulated

Psychological manipulation is a condition that occurs when the abuser denies the events that happened, causing the victim to doubt his or her own perception. This causes the manipulator to maintain control because their words carry more weight, power, and gain a great deal of trust from the victim. Some typical phrases used by psychological manipulators are:

– You’re crazy to think like that

– You’re overdoing everything

Isolate you from loved ones

Therapist JaQuinda Jackson says abusers often isolate their victims to make them easier to control. They do this by limiting the victim’s contact with those close to her, such as family and friends, and convincing the victim that they are the only one who cares about her. Some signs of doing this are:

– Limit the victim’s ability to go out

– Limit the victim’s access to family and friends by keeping money or transportation

– Anger, making the victim feel guilty after meeting a loved one

– Always want to be next to the victim

Use hateful, offensive language

Psychological abusers may use hateful, offensive language to attack the victim’s values, often including competence and attractiveness. This makes it easy for the victim to doubt his or her worth, adding to the feeling of low self-esteem, weakness, and hence more dependence on the abuser.

Screaming

Yelling is often one of the first signs of psychological abuse, which can run into most relationships. This is how abusers gain power, make their victims feel fear, and thereby control them more easily.

Blame

Abusers often avoid responsibility and blame others for their abuse. In many cases, the person to blame is the victim of abuse, leading them to believe that they can stop the situation by changing themselves. Some of the ways abusers want their victims to change themselves are:

– Weight loss

– Obey, don’t argue

– Keep quite

– Stay at home often

Jealous

Jealousy is quite common in relationships. However, this state is also divided into different levels of healthy and unhealthy. If jealousy leads to intense feelings of anger, which in turn give rise to controlling behavior, then psychological abuse is likely going on. Some signs of jealousy in psychological abuse are:

– Constantly accusing the victim of being unfaithful

– Track the victim’s communication methods such as phone, text, email, etc.

– Control the victim’s appearance and dress

– Calling victims too much when they are at work, gathering with friends

There are unpredictable tantrums

Unannounced outbursts of anger can also be a sign of psychological abuse, leaving the victim in a constant state of stress, fear, and threat. Some of the angry expressions of abusers are:

– Stare at the victim

– Punches into walls and other surfaces

– Breaking objects

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