Mr. Dao Hanh Tri – a famous Chinese educator and reformer once said: “True education needs to come from the heart. Only when it comes from the heart can great development be achieved. That’s it. is the essence of education”.
Children’s first “school” is the family. That is the place to build the first foundations for young personality. So how can parents educate their children, please refer to the “5-minute rule a day” of educator Dao Hanh Tri.
1. Listen to me for 1 minute
Parents often innocently say negative or delicate things right in front of their children and think that “the child is too young to understand the story”. In fact, children are very sensitive, able to know the joys, sorrows, frustrations, and worries of adults.
Children’s first “school” is the family. (Illustrated image)
Parents, take 1 minute a day to enter your child’s world. Listen to me share, confide everything to understand me better. This helps a lot in developing social skills for children.
Children who are not listened to will become less confident because of the “no one cares, no one needs” mentality. And until they are noticed, children become timid, shy, do not dare to voice their opinions because there is no habit of “being heard” right in the family.
2. Take 1 minute to show love
Educator Dao Hanh Tri shared: “Love is a great power, without love there is no education”. Love and companionship are what parents should give their children the most. Take 1 minute each day to give your child a loving look, hug and let them know how much you love them.
Don’t yell at your child in public. Don’t always complain about grades, don’t take away your child’s interests. Not only love children, parents should give them respect. For children, there is nothing better than having the love of their family.
Parents, please give your children respect and love. (Illustrated image)
3. Give your child 1 minute to participate
The interaction of parents with their children is extremely important in the educational process. Parents should try to discover things in common that they and their children enjoy to strengthen the emotional bond. Children also want to explore and participate in the world of adults.
Parents should let their children participate in family affairs, respect and listen to their opinions. Then guide them through the steps to help them become independent. This also helps parents understand more about their child’s inner self. Some activities can be done with your children such as cleaning the garden, decorating the house, going to the library together, etc.
Get your child involved in family activities. (Illustrated image)
4. Take a minute to praise your child
A friend of educator Dao Hanh Tri once beat and scolded his child because the child broke a newly bought watch. Although the boy tried to open the watch to put it back together, he was still scolded by his father. Seeing that, Mr. Dao Hanh Tri blamed you: “You have destroyed an Edison with your own hands”.
Dao Hanh Tri’s point of view in this regard is that instead of scolding, watch the child tinker with the watch by himself and take him to the repair shop. The child will be very grateful for both being “redeemed”, and having the opportunity to look at the watchmaker to gain more experience and knowledge.
This is the encouragement in genuine education. Each child has his or her own strengths and weaknesses. When encouraged, children will confidently reveal that advantage, instead of burying it deep in their hearts, only shame and lack of confidence.
Parents do not be shy to praise children. (Illustrated image)
5. Please take 1 minute to critique
Every day, parents should spend 1 minute to criticize and correct their child’s misbehavior, to make them aware of their mistakes and to correct them in time. In the process of adjustment, parents need to pay attention to two points: one is the cause of the child’s behavior, the other is how to educate the child to correct the mistake.
A real story is as follows: A certain student was dragged by an angry friend’s parents to the principal’s room to denounce him for hitting his friend. The teacher instead of hastily reproaching the child invited him to sit and give him candy. The student was surprised but still reached out to take the candy. When he sat across from the teacher, he cried and said that he hit his friend because you bullied another girl in the class.
The principal gently said: “I reward you with candy because you have a sense of justice and know how to protect the weaker students.” The student sobbed: “I know I was wrong for hitting a friend”. At that time, the teacher explained: “It’s okay if you know your mistakes like that, you need to correct them!”.
The skillful “correction” of adults makes an important contribution to children. Moreover, compared with outsiders, parents “calibrate” their children more easily because children are less narcissistic and embarrassed with their parents, rather than with other adults. Therefore, 1 minute for criticism is extremely necessary, helping to shape children better. As a result, children will grow up in the right mindset and personality.
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