My wife cheated from the moment I met her

One day, my aunt told me that I had broken up with my boyfriend for a long time, and my family wanted to introduce us to each other. I agree. The first time I met her, I saw in her a feeling of melancholy, sadness, and very few words. When I met her, I also asked her no less than 10 times if she had broken up with her lover. The answer I received was: “I broke up a long time ago”. She said that she had only lived with friends before, had sex with her ex-lover twice. I am honest and gentle, so I trust, sympathize, and decide to pursue you. Having known each other for two months, I went down to her house to ask for a wedding. At first, I protested, saying I needed more time. Then, due to the Covid epidemic and family pressure, she accepted my offer.

The day we took our wedding photos, she suddenly cried. Later, I found out that my friend had texted her saying that her ex knew that she was getting married, so she was sad. At that time, I wanted to cancel the wedding and break up, then because I loved her and didn’t want her family to lose face, I continued to go to the wedding. When I was on my honeymoon, once I cried in the bathroom. I comforted myself that she broke up a long time ago, don’t worry and give her more time. We had sex a few times without using birth control, so two months later she became pregnant. I cried for two days straight. I wonder how many people want to have children, why is the wife crying?

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Four months later, I discovered that she was still interacting on social media with her ex, saving a picture of that person in her phone (when she opened it, I accidentally saw it). I asked my wife to unfriend and delete my ex’s photo. She didn’t accept it and I kicked my wife out. After three days, my family told me to fast for several days. I love you and love the child in my belly, so I comforted her. She said she had unfriended and deleted photos of her ex, I believe I should take her home. During my wife’s pregnancy, I was always by her side to take care of her and take her to antenatal care.

I gave birth earlier this year. Since giving birth, I feel that my wife loves me a little more. A few days ago, I accidentally discovered that she cheated on me a lot, right from the moment I met her. The truth is that when we got to know each other, I still hadn’t broken up with my ex. I lived with him as husband and wife for more than a year. I really said goodbye to my ex when the two families agreed to get married. I also discovered, she actually hasn’t deleted the photo of her ex-lover, bypassing me to save it somewhere else. When asked, she said she didn’t remember, but I could hardly believe it again.

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After that we argued, she also said that every time she mentioned the old story, she felt sorry for the old person, and then thought about whether she regretted it. She confessed that at first she hid from me and had not finished her feelings for her ex-lover. A few months later she fell in love with me because “I’m good too”. I felt like I was being compared again, worried that one day she would regret her decision to marry me. I feel a bit guilty for getting married too soon and being too gullible. However, I found myself cheated and hurt a lot. I don’t know whether to continue this marriage or stop it. Before I met you, I didn’t really love anyone because I only cared about my studies and career. I don’t have much experience in cases like this. Please give honest advice. Thank you.

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