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The young wife was suddenly “afraid” to be near her husband, even though she was panting every night before, the reason why the couples were startled

Not knowing that she was pregnant, she took emergency contraceptive pills, leading to stillbirth, forcing her to quit. The young girl obsessed herself with “killing her child” so she “rejected” her husband for half a year.

Thuong (24 years old, Vinh Phuc) has just been married but is not ready to have children right away. The husband and wife are both so excited to have sex every night.

About 7 months ago, it was late at night, and when they fell in love, they both discovered that there was no longer a “raincoat” in the house. But could not stop the stormy clouds. After that, Thuong took emergency contraceptive pills. She is assured that she is still “safe”.

But a few days later, she had abdominal pain and vaginal bleeding. Go to the hospital to check. It was shocking when doctors diagnosed Thuong as pregnant. The pregnancy was formed before having sex without using a condom.

“Because I didn’t know I would take emergency contraception again when I was pregnant, the pregnancy was ruined and had to be aborted. Lying on the hospital bed leaving the baby, my tears kept flowing. The guilt, the feeling that I am the cruel mother killing my child haunts me.

More miserable, after that event until now, I have always been haunted, scared and no longer interested in sex. Every time my husband touches me, I think of the image of lying on the abortion table, then I push it away.

Knowing can not prolong this situation, it affects family happiness. Both husband and wife have tried many ways but to no avail. I can’t “fall in love” again. Now I don’t know what to do? Many nights looking at my husband uncomfortable, struggling with no place to relieve my guilt, I also want to “pause” my husband, but every time I touch it, I cringe, unable to do anything anymore. What should I do now?”, Thuong said sadly.

Sharing this situation with reporters, Master and doctor Phan Chi Thanh, from the National Hospital of Obstetrics and Gynecology, said that he was very sympathetic to Thuong’s condition.

This is not an uncommon situation for women of childbearing age. Many women do not know they are pregnant, take emergency contraceptive pills and then have to abort the pregnancy, thereby causing obsession with sexual activities.

Therefore, to solve this situation, both husband and wife must first perform desensitization during sexual intercourse.

“The hypersensitivity to solve here is the obsession in “sex”, specifically how to have a successful relationship, achieve pleasure but not get pregnant. To do this, it is necessary to apply long-term contraceptive methods that are both safe and effective.

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There are many methods of contraception available today, including the use of oral contraceptives or emergency contraceptive pills.

As an obstetrician, I always recommend that women, especially those who are married but have not planned to have children or have had enough children, should use long-term contraceptive methods such as implant, ring or sterilization (in case you have given birth to enough children) so as not to worry about unwanted pregnancy and safe. As for birth control with pills, it is still possible to use it, but it is easy to cause side effects or forget to take the pill, so the possibility of pregnancy is still very high,” Ths. BS Chi Thanh information.

Doctor Chi Thanh emphasized that only when safe contraceptive methods have been applied, after a period of time the wife has sex but is not pregnant, then they will gradually feel secure and regain the feeling of “love”.

“The husband also plays a huge role in this, which is to understand the psychology of his wife when doing “sex”, because the more successful the relationship, the faster the woman forgets her previous obsession,” said Doctor Chi Thanh. believe.

The next task, the obstetrician-gynecologist advised Thuong as well as the couples who fell into a sudden “emotional” situation during sex, that both of them need to focus as much as possible when doing it. The wife needs to focus on her husband’s body, not letting thoughts intertwine in his head.

The doctor gave an example, when having sex, the wife is afraid of getting pregnant, while having sex, she thinks that taking oral contraceptives every day is not safe… if that’s the case, the obsession will last and gradually lose her sense of self. sexual ability.

On the contrary, if we are natural, comfortable, secure about the contraceptive method we are using, focus on caressing her husband’s body, say words of love, etc., then the whole “sex radar” system in the body will be activated and will achieve pleasure during sex.

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