Children with this personality need to be molded from a young age

Although the nature of many children is formed from birth, it is your parenting style that also greatly influences the development of these personality types. Character education for children should begin as early as possible. Not only helps children become better, this is also the foundation for children to become useful people in society later. So what are the basic characteristics of the baby that need to be grasped early?

1. Always consider yourself the center

Have you ever seen a child rummage through a plate of food to try and pick out what he liked, only to leave a mess? Don’t care about other people’s feelings, make noise and mess in public places like running around and screaming. Despite the persuasion of the adults, this child never listens and is always egotistical.

If parents do not mold this personality in time, with children who always value their own interests like that, will they grow up noticing the existence of their parents?

There is a story like this: “A father was seriously ill. The only son returned from the city to take care of his father. Thought that the old man’s health would gradually improve, but the first day, the son. said a heartbreaking sentence: ‘I only have 7 days off, including funeral leave. How will I talk to my boss like this.’ When listening to his son, the father committed suicide. died in despair”.

His wife later said that it was her husband’s inadequate upbringing that caused the tragedy.

2. Not grateful

In this respect, parents should be more concerned with their own behavior. Today, many families have only one child, everyone protects, serves, and tries to fulfill every child’s wishes. The biggest drawback of this is to make the child feel that others should treat him or her well, without needing to repay the parents and relatives. Over time, the child becomes a selfish person, thinking only of himself.

Another obvious feature of this type of child is laziness. It is used to being served by others, and cannot adapt to society when born. No one likes to be friends with such children, on the contrary, they will try their best to stay away from unpleasant “thorns”.

A psychologist once said: “If the child is 3 years old, if the parents do not meet the requirements, he will roll all over the floor. When the child is 15 years old, he can harm himself, even commit suicide or get into a fight. with you; But when the child is 20 years old, the child is always resentful and even attacks his parents.”

Such children completely ignore the contribution of their parents, taking everything for granted, only remembering that their parents have not been satisfied and feeling resentful themselves. When children are blindly satisfied their needs, they will grow up without gratitude and only resentment.

3. Always lose your temper, can’t control your emotions

Every time we go to the supermarket, we can see a child crying and begging his parents to buy toys. If parents do not meet the needs, they will calmly lie down, make noise, cause disorder and make the curious crowd gather to look.

Of course, this will embarrass the parents. If parents still insist on saying no, children will understand that not everything they want will be granted. On the contrary, if parents pamper their children, they will understand that as long as they cry, make a mess, they will get what they want.

If you ignore the pampering factor of your parents, a child who can’t control his emotions often loses his temper, growing up with this personality also makes those around him feel uncomfortable.

4. Jealousy too much

Many children are envious of others from a very young age. They will feel extremely angry, jealous when they see other friends have a toy that they don’t have, or a nice set of clothes, a new dress, they will insist on their parents to buy them an item. just like that.

This personality often appears in families who are too pampered, see their children as the center of the universe and unconditionally respond to everything they want. This jealousy will make it difficult for children to cooperate with others, easily deviate from the development trend of society, and likely grow up to have more selfish thoughts than other peers.

5. Too obsessed with money

The reason that children form the habit of loving money above all else is probably the influence of their parents. A person who does not resist the temptation of money can make them sell their dignity, without any tricks to earn money.

Although everyone likes money but it is still only a human exchange tool, a child needs to have the right concept of money. If money is everything, children can easily develop bad habits such as stealing money just to satisfy their own needs.

6. Too arrogant, look down on people

Confidence is an essential trait in children, but overconfidence can turn into arrogance. Arrogant people often think of themselves as the center of the universe, exalting themselves and belittling others. Such a child is difficult to make friends, especially when growing up, is often judged ignorant by others.

In fact, no matter how young or old, no one likes to be friends with an arrogant person. So if you see your child showing signs of arrogance, parents need to promptly change, otherwise the child is easy to be isolated later.

7. Always find a way to lie

Honesty, frankness, honesty are virtues that are loved and appreciated by everyone. However, there are many children from a young age who have shown themselves to be excuses and lies. For example, if they don’t do their homework, forget to bring it, they will say that they were sick yesterday, or that they were forced to stay by the teacher to study overtime as an excuse for coming home late.

These excuses and lies signal the future that they will be the ones who do not want to be responsible, because after all, they will always use lies to avoid guilt and shirk responsibility. These children grow up to be flattered, distrustful, and often unwelcome.

8. Overly dependent on parents

Too much dependence on parents will destroy a child’s foundation, even if he wants to repay the favor of birth and upbringing in the future, it is not possible to do so.

Before a child becomes talented, the most important thing parents need to teach the child to become an independent person. Just like parents are afraid of their children falling when they learn to walk, if all day long to support their children, when will the children walk on their own?

Conclude

“In order for children to really grow up, they must be taught to understand what happiness is. Children also need to understand pain and fatigue to learn the lesson that: To succeed, you must overcome difficulties, everything is not yet ready. it’s never easy,” the mother shared her experience.