My daily happiness from the moment my wife sleeps

About the brothers in the family: About a year after the wedding, my younger brother went to Saigon to study. I gave him accommodation and meals. At the same time, my wife’s younger brother went to school, I didn’t help with money, just let him live in the same house. Sometimes my wife’s parents send more food from the countryside to my brother and my wife. Now my brother has a wife and children and lives near my house, my brother-in-law goes to work and stays with relatives.

Economic: I am the breadwinner of the family. At the end of the month, when I receive my salary, I partially pay off the bank loan to buy a house and personal expenses, and the rest I give to my wife to keep (the wife saves money).

About my work: I rarely talk to my wife about this. The culmination was when I found a new job, was the director of a newly opened subsidiary in the corporation, the salary was quite high for me. The job requires me to go on a business trip every two months, one or two days each time. I was very happy, so I shared it with my wife, at first she refused, but I gradually convinced her and she agreed. The first time I went on a business trip, my wife was happy and told me to buy a gift. Preparing to go for the second time, his wife began to sing: “Some people with high salaries, high positions, often go on business trips are easy to flirt.” My wife kept saying that and I couldn’t stand it, so I quit. Due to unexpected leave and boredom, about a year later I applied for a job again. During that time, I worked odd jobs to make ends meet.

About my wife’s work: I don’t ask, what does my wife share?

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About the wife’s character: I am childish, cheerful, sociable. The wife is very patient and hard working but the housework is clumsy. As simple as peeling fruit, I had to do it myself. When my wife got up to work, I only dared to look, not to eat. My wife often said: “Some people in the company tell me to peel fruit like this, how can I be a bride?” True, my family did not force her to be a bride. I only stayed at home for two days after the wedding to help clean up.

About spending: My wife regrets the money, sometimes when she buys things but is paid a few thousand dong short, she complains to me all night, I can’t sleep. So I do most of the shopping for household items. Kitchen utensils such as pots, pans, cups, plates… my wife often says “buy it tomorrow”, as a result I bought 10 times my wife is not sure to buy it once.

Frustrating things: One day, after putting my baby to sleep, I was a bit tired, so I opened the cupboard to get milk to drink. I was a little too strong to startle my wife awake. Wife said: “I have trouble sleeping, leave me alone to sleep”. Towards morning, my wife was too tired to go to bed, and I sat and watched my children sleep until morning. One day, I took my wife and children to have breakfast, where I ate little and ate slowly, so my wife said: “You make me so miserable”. One day, when I woke up, my wife said: “I’m so tired of eating porridge these days, so I ate less, my mother went to buy other food for me”. After a while, I heard my wife scream: “I’m too tired to buy porridge for you, why don’t you eat it, I’m so miserable with you.”

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When my child is sick, he is tired, but his mother is tired 10. My wife cries all day long: “Why are you so weak, you are so sick all the time”. When I gave my child medicine, my wife said: “What medicine do you keep taking?” My wife was sick, I bought medicine for her to drink, but she said: “I know you don’t take medicine but you still buy it for money”.

My wife returned to her hometown to give birth. After six months, she moved in with me for two months, sent her children to her grandparents to take care of, and her two-year-old son moved in with my wife and I. Things started from here, I decided not to tolerate my wife anymore, thinking that I had to mold my wife to do what she did and teach my children to be human.

Life came to a standstill when Covid came, the couple had to isolate at home and all worked online. Wife is a little bit irritable, complaining. Happiness comes to me when my wife sleeps quietly, I coax my son and father and son to sleep together. Every day when the wife gets up to ask to put the baby to sleep, the chorus: “Mommy screams, I cry” until one or two in the morning. The day I feel the healthiest, the happiest is when my wife is in the office, when it’s time to eat, I’ll take care of the rest.

At the end of work, I run home to eat, if my wife has not bathed the children, I will help take a bath and then eat. Every day I come home late, my children remind me and tell my wife to call me back. After eating, I play with the children, the wife washes the dishes or the wife plays with the children, then I wash the dishes. I played for a while, drank milk, and went to sleep. It was a beautiful day and there were only a few days in a month. The rest of the wife always complains, I eat quickly and run into the room holding the phone so I can’t hear anything.

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When my four-year-old son got sick from Covid, I quit taking care of him at the hospital. My wife is busy at work and can’t take a break, every night to visit a little and then come back. The first few days the baby was sick, so the mother cried and complained and returned home, a few days later, after being sick, the mother laughed a little and then returned. I don’t know what to do to change the current situation. Every day I want to go home early to play with my children, but coming home is so boring. After Covid, I often think negatively, what should I do? Looking forward to your advice.

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