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Parents need to pay attention to timely intervention, to avoid regrets later

As children get older, their relationship with their parents seems to become less and less tight. Children think more, are no longer too obedient when talking to their parents… Many parents find that their children seem to have an earlier “rebellious period”, because some children have disobeyed their parents since they were six or seven years old.

For example, “Dad let me go”, “it’s all my fault”, “it’s all my fault”, etc. Irritated words with a temper that doesn’t want to look directly at parents . In fact, it is not the children who “rebellion” early, but the children who have encountered difficulties in communicating with their parents, and are sending out a “cry for help”, hoping to be accepted.

These 3 frequent sayings of children are signs of psychological instability: Parents need to pay attention to timely intervention, to avoid regrets later - Photo 1.

If your child often says these 3 words in daily communication, be careful

A worried mother recently said that her son seemed to have turned into “another person”. As summer vacation was about to begin, she wanted to ask the child if there were any vacation plans. As a result, the son replied: “My classmates organized a camping trip, anyway, if you don’t let me go, don’t ask”. In this way, the conversation between the two came to a complete stop.

Too upset at the child’s conversational attitude, the mother questioned, but the child did not look up and replied: “It’s all my fault, and it’s my fault again”… At this point, the mother felt that the problem seems serious. She wondered, had she repeatedly blamed the child for no reason?

There are children who always actively admit their fault, and there are children who just rely on others for everything. There is a disturbing video on social media. A girl is riding the subway with her mother, the mother is carrying a large bag and she comfortably puts her hand in the bag. But after getting off the bus at a certain station, the girl angrily kicked her mother because she discovered she got off at the wrong station, and said that “it’s all mom’s fault”.

Calmly and seriously think about what these “angry” words from your child mean.

1. Anyway… well

This can be understood as “even if you want to be like that, it certainly won’t be”. In other words, “I won’t let you go anyway” can be translated as “even if my classmate organizes a camping trip, I can’t let you go”. After taking it apart, I could understand very well what the child meant, in fact, I really wanted to go, but I felt that my mother would not agree.

2. It’s all my fault

Can be understood as “No more discussion or communication, no matter what you say, you did a bad thing. Mom is scolding so you admit your mistake and the conversation is over”.

2. It’s all on mom/dad

This means that the child blames others for everything, whether getting off at the wrong station, being late or not being able to get on the train, all because the mother didn’t get to the right station, but she didn’t. Any mistake someone else should be responsible for, not yourself.

After all, if a child often says these three sentences, it means that the child has a psychological problem, and parents should never miss the child’s “call for help” signal.

Parents should do?

When children often say these “angry words”, parents need to understand the true meaning of the word and find ways to help their children overcome the current difficult situation.

First of all, when the child starts with “anyway” As in the case above, it means that before that all ideas and wishes of the child were rejected. Every request to the parents is categorically denied, which hurts the children very much, they also won’t want to do the same next time, nor dare to expect anything.

Parents do not forget to tell the children that they respect their children’s opinions, will agree and support as long as it is reasonable, next time they can directly ask the mother if they can go. In everyday life, let your children have the right to speak up and express their thoughts. At the same time, do not prohibit all activities other than studying for your child. Let go of my hand so that I can grow up.

Second, with the sentence “it’s all your fault” That is, parents have arbitrarily attributed similar situations to their children’s fault, so the child just wants to admit it first, without further discussion. At this time, parents should find the right opportunity to discuss right and wrong, try their best to let the child vent about the previous complaints and release the knot in his child’s heart. Treat your children with respect like friends. Let’s stop thinking that adults are always right, so we don’t push the parent-child relationship further.

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Finally, if children often say “it’s all on you” then it’s time for parents to let go.

If your child is late to school, can’t eat breakfast, fails an exam, opens his shoelaces, all of which are the parents’ fault, then it can only be said that the parents have been controlling and doing too much for the child.

As a parent, everyone loves their children very much, ready to give them the best. However, are the children grateful to their parents for those sacrifices? Or used to being pampered, so the child will develop dependence and eventually, like the above mother, will raise a “white-eyed wolf”.

Therefore, parents should never, out of love for their children, be ready to do everything for their children. At first, your child may still feel sorry for his parents for working so hard to take care of him, but gradually he will take your sacrifice for granted, your responsibility and obligation to do so. Besides, because they don’t get involved in doing anything, children will not be able to understand the hardships of their parents. Later, I grew up like a broken-winged bird, unable to do anything, even take care of myself.

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