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Hanoi schoolgirl burst into tears talking about studying pressure: How to overcome emotional ‘boiling point’?

Due to the impact of the Covid-19 epidemic along with prolonged online learning, when returning to school many students fell into a psychological crisis but did not know how to overcome it.

Sharing about his pressures in the study process, Nguyen DK – a 9th grader at Nguyen Truong To Secondary School (Hanoi) said: “In 2017, when I and my mother went to Germany to look for a new study environment, , I thought there was a good environment there, but then my mother and I had difficulty with new languages, the environment was without relatives.

At that time, I did not receive any attention from my mother. After 3 years of not finding a target, in 2020 my family decided to return to Vietnam.

When she returned home and went back to school in Vietnam, her thinking was different from that of her classmates because she and her classmates had a 2 year age difference, she was isolated and did not participate in school activities.

At this time, there is no common voice between me and my mother, I feel that my mother does not understand me and that studying with me is really a great pressure.

Then, I find the homeroom teacher to confide and say what I think. Fortunately, I received her advice on how to adapt to the learning environment here. Now I can play with my classmates who are less than 2 years old. I also interact with my mother more, me and my mother no longer have barriers, are closer, and understand each other better.

In particular, with my friends, I am very happy because everyone understands my situation and helps me study better.”

Hanoi schoolgirl burst into tears talking about studying pressure: How to overcome emotional 'boiling point'?
Nguyen Duy Khanh shares a story about his study pressure

As for D.XT – a student of class 7A11 at Ngo Sy Lien Secondary School (Hoan Kiem District), his pressure came from getting 2 marks in History once because he didn’t take full notes.

“I still remember that day when she gave me 2 points, of course it was my fault because I didn’t take notes, I didn’t do my homework. Then I told her that I didn’t copy that part because I understood that part. However, she told me that “you go home, you don’t need to study, I guarantee you to take the exam”.

Her words made me feel disappointed and hurt because I meant that I understood that part, not that I understood it all and didn’t need to study, just go for the exam. Since that incident, studying with me has been like a torture because I feel like the teacher doesn’t understand me, I feel like I don’t like going to school,” said T..

Hanoi schoolgirl burst into tears talking about studying pressure: How to overcome emotional 'boiling point'?
Students burst into tears when talking about the psychological pressure they went through.

Doctor Do Minh Loan – Head of Adolescent Health Department of Central Children’s Hospital said: “After listening to the stories of the students, I am glad that they found a solution to relieve their psychology. themselves instead of choosing to harm themselves. In fact, at this age, children’s desire is to have understanding from parents, teachers and friends.

Sometimes sharing is difficult, but I think you should not hesitate to share because only sharing will help you understand and help you, help you understand each other better to adjust behavior as well as emotions. own”.

Sharing at the forum “What I want to say” organized by the Central Team Council in collaboration with Tien Phong Newspaper, Hanoi Department of Education and Training, Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam, Dean of the Faculty of Educational Sciences, University of Education Education (Hanoi National University) said that there are students who are angry and give themselves the right to express it. However, just because you feel angry doesn’t mean you can act angry.

“It is a reality today that many students are disconnected from the people around them. Psychological wounds are like wounds on limbs, we have to open the bandage, wipe the wound, it may be a bit painful but it heals quickly. Wounds in the heart should be treated like wounds on the skin.

Students should share with those they feel they trust, don’t let psychological pressures and heartaches become serious,” said Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam.

According to this expert, there are people who say that their parents are busy and don’t listen to them, but in return, why don’t you choose a time when your parents are less busy; or problems that are difficult to talk about directly, can you text or email your parents?

“Besides parents, when under psychological pressure, students can share with teachers, family members, best friends… Remember that you can share with many people. For example, if you share your story with 5 people, 1-2 people will be busy, the rest will surely have someone willing to listen.

Our emotions may be happy one moment, but only a moment later they are normal. So does emotional pain. Those who say that they have the idea of ​​cutting their hands and hurting themselves is when their emotions fall into despair, which is only temporary. Let’s master our emotions, overcome the boiling point of emotions.

For example, maybe you have to go through the feeling that other people make ugly comments about you. So how do you react to bullies? Usually I see them using unfriendly language to attack or avoid, but these two methods are not suitable.

If they are attacked online, they should not respond, but save evidence, take screenshots, can find ways to block, and notify people around the message of bullying.

Sharing with those who care about them so that they do not fall into a situation where they continue to receive criticism or lack of friendliness, “said Dr. Tran Thanh Nam.

Hoang Thanh

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