It’s a HUGE Fail, smart people must teach their children to say this word!

Some parents always emphasize to their children that they must obey their grandparents when at home, listen to teachers when they go to school, and absolutely obey their brothers and sisters. This is instilled in children’s minds at an early age, but is it really a good thing? Will parents be happy when their child becomes a good child, without opinions, and obeys others unconditionally?

Forcing children to obey is not necessarily a good thing. Letting children express their opinions, respecting their decisions is the best thing. Parents need to give their children the right to speak, not make them obey blindly.

Forcing children to obey is not necessarily the best thing. (Illustrated image)

WHY ARE MY CHILD’S DELICIOUS OBLIGATION A FAILURE OF PARENTS?

1. Children who are too obedient will not have opinions

Everyone has a different opinion and should express it. But with children who are too obedient, they often worry about other people’s feelings and give up their own true thoughts. Gradually growing up, they listen to others unconditionally so as not to offend anyone and do not need to think much themselves.

Over time, children’s brain thinking will not develop, there is no clear opinion. At this time, the child is like a boat without a sail, floating on the sea without direction. Therefore, parents should give their children the opportunity to express their thoughts in the educational process. What can be said, let the children say instead of telling them to obey.

2. Prevent child nature

Raising children is not just about giving them enough food, or giving them books for self-study, but requires parents to make efforts to teach them. Children’s nature is naughty, hyperactive, refusing to sit still. But parents always imposed, forced out of playfulness and forced to listen to everything.

Prolonged situation will make children inhibited, changing personality in a negative direction. They gradually lose their essence, the concept of themselves, all beliefs based solely on others. Children who are especially obedient tend to be cowards, always giving in as they grow up.

Children who are especially obedient tend to be cowards, always giving in as they grow up. (Illustrated image)

3. Children become “normal”

“Do you want your child to be different?”, “Do you want your child to excel?”, “Do you want your child to excel in school as well as in life?”. Of course, the answer of parents is “yes” and they will find ways to make their children excellent. Children who obey in a forced way are unlikely to succeed because they think that only rules are the right thing to do.

In this day and age, children who dare to innovate, dare to break through, will always move forward. As for normal children, afraid of change, they will settle back. Briefly, we see that obedient, obedient children will make parents satisfied and reassured. But in fact, a child who listens to words will be like a puppet, tomorrow when he grows up, “wherever you sit” to make parents upset.

HOW TO HELP BACK TO MY REAL ONE

1. Help children boldly say “no”

Does your child have the courage to say no to parents, to everyone around? Let your child have the courage to say “no”. Let children express their thoughts honestly, do the things they love. That is the respect for children that parents should do. Only when children have the courage to refuse in front of their parents will they dare to refuse others.

Rejection is a way for children to protect themselves against all the storms of life. Refusing to help children no longer feel fear, not be controlled by others, dare to live true to themselves without painting anything more.

Parents need to teach their children to say “no” to certain situations. (Illustrated image)

2. Accept your child’s mistakes

Accepting children’s mistakes will help them see progress. If a child makes a mistake and parents are impatient and angry, it will cause the child to become timid and afraid.

For example, when a child spills broth on his clothes, two types of parents appear. People with a negative attitude will scold and blame: “Why are you so clumsy, you can’t do anything. If you can’t do simple things, how can you do big things?” People with a positive attitude will behave differently: “Are you okay, have you burned your hands and feet? Next time, be careful! Put a towel in the bowl to cool it down, hold it with two hands and gently put it on the table.”

Active parents allow their children to make mistakes, help them see their mistakes, and offer helpful methods to not make them again.

Parents should be calm and gentle before their children’s mistakes. (Illustrated image)

3. Always encourage children

Encouraging your child with words of encouragement will help him become more confident. Some strict parents rarely encourage their children. They feel that I need to be independent, do not need encouragement, so they ignore everything around me. Over time, children become passive, silent, or may rebel.

Motivation and encouragement are essential for children in the process of growing up. This makes children feel the love and care of their parents for them. And children will want to repay that favor with practical actions.