To see how far a person can go, see who their companion is.
If you want to know how good a person is, look at who the person who guides them is.
To know how successful a person is, look at their relationships.
Therefore, the proverb has a sentence: “Choose a place, play chooses you”. Healthy relationships will help elevate yourself. The closer toxic relationships are, the more career “downhill”. Therefore, stay away from these 4 toxic relationships so that life is no longer deadlocked but sublimated forever.
A good relationship can help your career and life, while a bad relationship will only become a hindrance. Photo: QQ
1. The type of person who often complains and brings negative energy to others
When things go wrong, some people often try to figure out how to fix them, because it’s already happened, and there’s no point in saying more. However, there are also some people who do not stop complaining. Complaining about the unfairness of life, complaining that the leader misjudges himself…
David Pollet once said: “In this world, many people are like garbage trucks, they load everyone’s garbage and run around, taking in their own odors, regrets, anger and disappointments.”
That’s true indeed. Associate with people who like to complain, we will have to absorb too much negative energy. In the end, they affect your psyche and make you complain as much as they do.
In interpersonal communication, a healthy relationship should be harmonious and bring positive energy to each other, not one person acting as the other’s “trash can” for a long time. In the long run, you’ll just feel that you’re doing yourself a favor.
If you realize that your positive energy is not strong enough to counteract the negative energy around, you must learn to move away from the negative energy first.
2. The type that knows no boundaries and takes it for granted
Psychologist Fengxu once divided social interaction into two types, one is “empathetic communication” and the other is “pragmatic communication”.
Empathic communication refers to effective communication that is achieved by empathizing with the social behaviors and emotional experiences of others, knowing how to overcome boredom, or having common interests with others. This type of communication does not involve an exchange of interests.
Pragmatic communication is created to achieve a certain purpose or gain benefits from the other party.
However, in life, most people cannot distinguish these two types of communication. Some people think that it is important for someone to communicate with them to ask for help, so they assume that the nature of this society is pragmatic and that person will make friends in a true pragmatic way.
Taking advantage of others but not knowing the end and limit is the main reason leading to the breakdown of many relationships.
Because there are many people who use the name of “friends” to annoy others, think that friends should ask for help or take advantage of each other to get closer, or that friends help each other is common… and then make love for no reason. demand and force others to follow, but do not feel what their friend thinks, agrees to help.
The more serious problem is that traditional culture and social concepts implicitly associate pragmatism with empathy.
Many people use the excuse “It’s normal for friends to help each other” to make their friends obligated to help them. Therefore, we must first distinguish what is “empathetic” and what is “pragmatic”. When one of your “compassionate friends” brings up a pragmatic need for you, if you really don’t have any good will don’t feel guilty, have the courage to say “no”. Refusing to match is a kind of self-defense.
3. People who are not on the same “wave”
You say the big sea is beautiful. The other party said they did not know how many people died here.
You like to read books, they say you’re just a bookworm who doesn’t understand life’s stories.
You like to eat Western food, but they criticize that it is both expensive and not delicious.
You have the will to progress, but they say that a girl’s education is of no use, not as good as marrying a rich man.
You work hard, but they criticize you for being young but working hard.
In their eyes, if you share joy, you are bragging. You release sadness means you are overdoing things, exaggerating everything.
Every time you talk in such a way, you must have been “crazy”.
If you’re happy, they don’t care about you. When you are sad, they immediately mock you. If you express your feelings, they consider it annoying. Even if they argue, they don’t know what you’re mad at them for.
The conversation between the two people was off-wave, the scene where he said chickens and she said ducks. Even though you and the other party are both speaking Vietnamese, the communication efficiency here is zero. At times like this, you have to spend a lot of time and energy, and even have to hold your anger inside.
There is an old saying: “There is a relationship between the natural and the natural, the opposite of the opposite.” If you don’t match, you shouldn’t be friends. Because fate cannot be forced, everything has to be contingent.
4. The type of person who speaks disparagingly
Next to us, there are always some people who don’t say yes, like to put things in the wrong. This type of person who likes to stab and poke rice always brings trouble to others.
Viewers of the market only like gossip about other people that have or are true. People who listen to extraordinary stories forget about themselves but only look closely at the lives of outsiders.
Extraordinary talkers often spread fake news without thinking about the consequences. The type of person who likes to change white for black, has ruined so many good relationships between people.
There is a proverb that says: “Black near ink near the bright lights.” Associate with this type of person, you will feel very tired. Over time, you will also have to be negatively affected in terms of ideology, easily in danger of becoming a marketer.
Successful people will never get in the way of others, but only focus on their own path. They also will not interfere, poke their nose in other people’s private affairs, but just enjoy their own lives.
In front of the market, we would rather pretend to be dumb and pretend to be deaf, as if we don’t know, but absolutely don’t follow. Instead of constantly criticizing and criticizing, always remind yourself to constantly improve yourself.
In a crowded place, you need to know how to keep your mouth shut. When you’re alone, don’t think about it. Maturity is when we know how to keep ourselves so that we are no longer caught up in the vortex of discord.
According to QQ
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