‘Happy childhood is a vaccine to prevent depression’
Psychologists share on eBox that family and school are two important factors that help children avoid or overcome depression.
Join the first topic of eBox on depression topicactress Nguyen Lam Thao Tam shared her own experience in adolescence, when she had to face a lot of pressure from studying as well as relationships with friends around.
Thao Tam said that for about a year and a half, from the beginning of her 9th year to the end of her 10th grade year, she experienced a period of heavy stress when she had to pass exams and was sensitive to glances with her classmates. “It’s a feeling like falling into a black hole, not feeling anything happy, not sharing with parents and not connecting with friends. Negative thoughts are also more and more every day. see a bad grade or perceive an unfriendly look.”
The actress used to have self-harm actions, or have unhealthy behaviors such as eating disorderly, staying up until 4 am, gradually these behaviors have left a series of negative effects. health trauma such as stomach pain, severe lack of sleep. During this period, Thao Tam could no longer share and confide much with her parents because she thought no one understood her. “At first I lost connection with people around me because I didn’t understand what was happening to me, and then I lost connection because I felt like no one understood me,” Tam shared.
Depressive experiences only really pass when Thao Tam gradually finds connections with life, nature and appreciates beautiful things.
Thao Tam’s experience with episodic depression is not uncommon. According to a study by the National Children’s Hospital, the prevalence of depression in adolescents ranges from 5% to 8% and is more common in the post-pubertal age group. Many parents have encountered many difficulties in recognizing the signs of depression as well as finding ways to overcome it with their children.
Assoc. Prof. Dr. Nguyen Thi Phuong Hoa – Director of the Institute of Psychology and Communication, the second speaker of this eBox issue is also someone who has had practical experience when going through many difficulties with her son in the face of evidence. depression.
Like most parents, when they learned that their son had mental health problems, Phuong Hoa’s family experienced a great shock, along with a feeling of helplessness and confusion. Psychologists in Vietnam made a diagnosis that her son had severe schizophrenia.
Although she was an expert in the matter, she also had a lot of trouble figuring out how to cure it. She and her husband consulted about 10 domestic and foreign doctors, joined many groups of parents with children with mental health problems from other countries to listen to their share and difficulties.
As both an expert and a person with practical experience in helping children overcome depression, Phuong Hoa said, the first thing parents need to do is to stop blaming themselves. “If the problem is only with the parents, it is too easy to fix, it is true that parents can be part of the cause but the underlying problem is much more serious than that, parents need to get help from people have the expertise to help your child overcome it, not criticism,” the expert said.
She also emphasized: “No one wants their loved one to suffer from depression. Everyone will have to face the constant and prolonged feeling of helplessness when watching their loved one just stay at home day in and day out, not eating or drinking, Parents should remember that depression goes away when we find ways to cope with it to prolong the time without depression, to shorten the intensity and amplitude of depression to overcome it.” .
The importance of the companionship from parents during the time with their children overcoming depression was also emphasized by Dr. Dang Hoang Giang in his nearly 30-minute sharing passage. As someone with a special interest in trauma, he says, depression isn’t just a type of sadness that can be overcome with determination and discipline. It is a psychological disorder, when a depressed person has no energy, loses his will, only thinks about death, thinks he has no value…
He particularly noted that depressed children often display more anger, frustration, and irritability than adults. “If the child is suddenly unhappy, sociable, but angry, don’t blame it for being stubborn and uneducated because it may be a sign of depression,” the speaker recommended.
Stress about studying, grades, and exams is one of the major reasons for depression, and there are many more. He said, there are 3 groups of factors that lead to depression, the first is biological, genetic, the probability that parents who have had depression have a depressed child will be higher. The second is a difficult childhood, unhappiness, not being cared for, being abused, suffering… Third is the stress straight current such as unemployment, life pressure, study. In particular, genetic factors and unhappy childhood are the two basic factors leading to a higher probability of depression. Therefore, the expert said that a happy childhood is an effective vaccine to prevent depression.
The expert said that parents need to have knowledge, spend a lot of time taking care of their children’s mental health, learn to distinguish what are the signs of an anxiety disorder and which are the manifestations of depression. so you know when to call for a specialist to help your child. Avoid thinking that such manifestations will pass easily.
The sharing of actress Nguyen Lam Thao Tam, Assoc. Prof. Dr. Nguyen Thi Phuong Hoa and Dr. Dang Hoang Giang are among the first broadcast of the e-box thematic “Adolescent depression”. The topic will help parents equip themselves with knowledge in parenting, accompany their children on the development journey, and understand the negative effects of depression in adolescence. At the same time, the shares from this eBox number are also “secrets” for parents to better understand their children and avoid making mistakes that cause children to fall into depression. Learn more about eBox here.
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