“If mother-in-law and daughter-in-law want to be happy, it is best not to live together”

Movie Love the sunny day It has been on the air for a long time and has won the attention of a large audience. So, did your husband watch this movie and how did everyone in the family react to the character Khanh that she took on this time?

– Due to the busy nature of work, my husband did not have time to watch the movie, he only heard from his colleagues. People often share the movie’s content and express their thoughts on the character Khanh with my husband. Sometimes people come to David and say, “Your wife is suffering so much these days, she’s been abused by her mother-in-law all day.” (laugh).

Although I don’t watch the movie, my husband often asks and confided in me every time I accept a certain role.

Everyone in my family also watches the movie and everyone loves Khanh very much. Family members seem to see me in Khanh, so everyone holds their breath every time Khanh faces a new event, very excited and looking forward to this character having joy and happiness.

Both Lan Phuong and her husband are very busy, so this time she must be filming a lot. So baby care and housework Lan Phuong How to arrange and how to manage?

– During this time, I not only participate in filmmaking, but also manage my own business and take care of my children. Therefore, the daily workload is also 3-4 times higher. It’s been more than a year since I’ve had multiple jobs like this.

Filming start time Love the sunny day It is also at the time when I am most tired, most susceptible to stress. But then things gradually got better, in a way, maybe it’s the instinct of a mother, a wife that I find a way to balance time with my small family.

At the present time, is Lan Phuong a type of woman who likes to cook and take care of the family or a woman who prefers independence and promotes career?

– People often find that actors are very busy and have very little time for family. But I see myself as the woman of the family. I also do everything to be family-oriented.

I arrange my work well and try to spend the rest of my time with my small family. I myself do not want to go out much, whenever I have time, I just want to be with my husband and children.

I also love going to the kitchen to cook for my family, but due to my busy work, I can’t go to the kitchen as often as before. I am an independent woman but also a very emotional person.

I think that not only for me but for many other women career or family are equally important. But no matter what we do outside, no matter how much we strive for our careers, we are always nurturing our children and small families, right?

You and your husband often share lovely videos on TikTok, in married life, are you a funny and romantic man?

– My husband is a funny and romantic person. Each thing is that from time to time, both of them are busier, so they both have less time to see him funny or have the opportunity for the couple to be romantic like before. But when given the opportunity, both still cherish their time together and give each other the best things.

The husband and wife have cultural differences between the East and the West, so surely in the process of living together, the couple cannot avoid conflicts. So when these problems occur, how will you and your wife have a solution?

– When my husband and I have a conflict, we solve it very quickly because both are not angry people. When I have a problem that I feel I can’t tell the other person, I will get angry, but I won’t get angry and absolutely do not let my ego be too high.

David and I can argue freely, but we both have to keep our minds to ask ourselves the question: “Am I going too far?” When they realize that, one of them apologizes and solves the problem in a simpler way.

Lan Phuong and her husband often have questions and conflicts about what issues in married life?

– I have both done art and started a business, David also has his own job. The different nature of work also makes the two sometimes not compatible. That’s the only issue that causes both of them to argue sometimes, everything else is fine.

Lan Phuong is also a daughter-in-law in real life and is a “strawberry”, so what is the relationship between Lan Phuong and her mother-in-law?

– My mother-in-law and I have a very good relationship. Western people’s life is very independent, my parents-in-law do not live with their children, parents almost do not interfere in their children’s private lives. If there is a problem, grandparents only listen and give advice, all decisions are up to the couple.

That is why my life and my husband’s parents are very comfortable. Parents are very concerned about their children’s lives and sometimes my family still takes time to fly home so that the children can spend more time with their grandparents. Sometimes grandparents fly to Vietnam to visit relatives and children, the whole family gathers very happy.

Lan Phuong herself finds “Western mother-in-law” different from those of “Vietnamese mother-in-law”?

– Western mother-in-law and Vietnamese mother-in-law have many differences, but mainly because of cultural differences. Vietnamese mothers always want to know how their children live, are always worried about their children’s married life and really want their children to listen to their words.

But in the West, there is another point, as I said, that their lives always emphasize independence, so parents only care about their children to a certain extent, but do not interfere too deeply.

In your opinion, how important is the husband’s role in order to have a good relationship between a daughter-in-law and mother-in-law?

– In my opinion, to have a good mother-in-law – daughter-in-law relationship, it is best not to live together, if possible. We can choose to live close to each other, because living together even if no one has bad intentions, there is a possibility of conflict.

Because the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law have very clear differences, especially in terms of living situation and personality, conflicts are bound to happen. Even living with one’s own mother has its discomforts. Therefore, when married couples should live separately, they will have psychological comfort and ensure privacy.

In parallel with cultivating a small home, the couple also ensures the responsibility of caring and taking care of their parents. I think that is the best way to avoid unnecessary conflicts between mother-in-law – daughter-in-law.

If you have lived with your mother-in-law, the role of the man is extremely important, because he will be the one in the middle to connect the two sides. However, few men can do that well, working outside the pressure, coming home to reconcile the relationship with his wife and mother is exhausting. Therefore, it is best for the couple to live separately if possible.

I know not every couple has the favorable conditions to live separately, but we still consider having a separate house as a goal to work and financially strong to be more independent.

Thank you actor Lan Phuong for the chat!