Letting my old dad remarry was the worst decision I’ve ever made-Young

Remarriage at any age is an important decision, it is necessary to find out what the other person is like.

She regrets supporting her father’s remarriage. (Illustration)

Society is very open now, remarriage is very normal, even a person can remarry a few times is not a problem. However, marriage and love at any age still need to consider whether the personalities of the two sides are suitable for each other or not. No matter what kind of marriage it is, it is impossible for the reason of “needing a person to be by your side in the late afternoon” that ignores personality factors to “basket together”.

From the daughter herself in the story: “Supporting my dad’s remarriage was the worst decision I’ve ever made.”you will understand why many people think remarriage cannot bring happiness.

“My father is 58 years old, my mother passed away a long time ago. In order for him not to be lonely in his old age, I once strongly supported his father’s remarriage, but now I deeply regret it.

At that time, my grandmother did not support this. I think it’s simply a generational difference. But perhaps seeing her son work hard all his life, the grandmother finally agreed to this remarriage.

My stepmother before entering my house was a pretty nice person. I thought she would be a wife and mother that everyone wished for, not like the “step-aunt” in the movies. But after getting married, she tried everything to get my brother and grandmother to leave the house. For the sake of my father’s happiness, so that he would not have to fall into an awkward situation in the family, I tried to please my stepmother, but I was still just a “thorn” in people’s eyes.

At first, I thought the stepmother didn’t have much affection for her new family, things might change after a while. Turns out I was wrong, a person’s personality can’t be changed so easily. Perhaps the stepmother purposely pretended to be a good person at first.

Just like that, life “with face but not content” passed for many years. 3 years ago, my stepmother got sick and couldn’t get out of bed. My father took her to many hospitals for treatment, fortunately also cured.

This year, when I heard that my father had cancer, my stepmother immediately said: “I know you are very filial, I believe you will take good care of him”.

Having said that, she didn’t care about her husband in the hospital. After my father was discharged from the hospital, she stayed at home for a week and then took my father’s allowance to go to her own son’s house.

Before leaving, the stepmother also said: “For the sake of your father’s health, so as not to affect the emotions and add burden to the family, I will leave, so the family will be more comfortable”.

I don’t understand what she had in mind, coldly abandoning my father when he was sick. I thought to find him a friend by his side in his old age, but ended up bringing back a selfish person who casually abandoned her husband like that. Maybe my father was very sad to see his wife like that.”

Most elderly people who want to remarry hope to ease the burden on their children and grandchildren. This is easy to understand, but in practice many other problems arise. It all depends on the personality of the person.

Human nature is very complicated, it is not easy to see through them before marriage. Women who are unhappy and hurt in their first marriage often change their personality more or less, their hearts become more hardened.

In addition, there are many people who agree to remarry not for love, but for the purpose of dividing property.

Therefore, elderly people sometimes have to understand that remarriage is not a “lifesaver” to enjoy old age. They should know how to take care of themselves, prepare for themselves an amount of money to protect themselves, that way they will have less trouble and become a burden for their children and grandchildren.