Children’s skills have a successful future

These are also 7 skills that help separate children who will be successful in the future and those who are always stuck in failure.

Confidence

Parents often equate self-esteem with confidence. However, there is little evidence that raising self-esteem increases success in school and in life, in adulthood. Meanwhile, many studies have shown that children who see grades as the result of their own efforts and strengths are more successful than children who believe that they have no control over their results.

True confidence is the result of you doing well, facing obstacles, finding solutions on your own, and overcoming any problems. Fixing your child’s problems, helping them with their tasks only makes them think they can’t do it on their own.

Children with confidence know that they can fail, but they can also bounce back.

Empathy

Empathy is divided into emotional empathy, behavioral empathy, and cognitive empathy. Therefore, parents need to encourage children to develop empathy. Here are ways parents can teach their children about empathy:

Emotion naming: Naming emotions in context, to help children build emotional vocabulary. For example, parents say: “You look happy”, “You look sad?”…

Make a question: Parents can help children realize that all emotions are normal, for example: “Are you sad, I feel that way”…

Share feelings: Children need opportunities to safely express their feelings. Start by sharing your own feelings, for example, “I’m disappointed with this book”…

Observe the emotions of others: Join your child to “read” other people’s body language and listen to them.

Free

The ability to control one’s own attention, emotions, thoughts, actions, and desires is one of the strongest points towards success. Self-control helps children recover and grow. Therefore, it is very important to practice self-control.

One way to teach children self-control is to give them cues. For example, say, “I need your attention in a minute,” “Are you ready to listen?”.

Another technique that works is the use of pauses. For example, say to your child: “If you are angry, take a deep breath, count to 10 before answering”, “Calm down, think about it”.

Integrity

Integrity is a set of beliefs, competencies, attitudes and skills that create a moral compass for children to know what is right.

Besides expectations, parents also need to give children space to develop a moral identity and separate themselves from them. Practice this skill by praising ethical behavior when your child exhibits it, helping them realize that you value the behavior.

Curiosity

Curiosity is the pursuit and desire to discover facts that are novel, challenging, and unclear. To help children develop curiosity, parents can, through games, ask many questions such as: “What do you think will happen…” to encourage children’s creativity.

Perseverance

Persistence helps children keep going, even when things are so difficult that they want to give up.

Some children give up because they feel overwhelmed with tasks. Therefore, breaking tasks into small pieces helps them a lot, especially for children who have trouble concentrating or getting started. For example, if your child sees too much homework and panics, you can teach your child to break up the tasks by covering all the assignments with a sheet of paper, except for the top row. Gradually, the child lowers the paper to the next row, until the task is completed.

Optimistic

Optimistic kids see challenges and obstacles as immediate and surmountable, so they’re more likely to succeed. Meanwhile, pessimistic kids see challenges as permanent, like immovable blocks of cement, making them more likely to give up.

Therefore, it is advisable to teach children to be optimistic starting with their parents, because parents are an example for children to follow. Showing a positive, optimistic, joyful spirit is a way for you to pass on a positive message about life to your child.

Thuy Linh (According to CNBC)