Parents’ actions make their sons unfilial

Psychologists say that unfilial children turn out to be completely “cultivated” by their parents. The inappropriate parenting style of parents has left in the children’s hearts resentments, obsessions, which are not usually easy to manifest, only when subjected to shock will they emerge.

Parents pamper their son too much

Economic conditions gradually improved, the family only had 1 to 2 children. Therefore, it is common for parents to spoil their children. However, the more children are spoiled from a young age, the more unfilial they will grow up.

Because a child who has been spoiled by his parents for a long time without discipline is easy to develop egotism, disrespect, gratitude to others and will feel the family’s concern for him is obvious. Such people grow up not only unfilial but also corrupt, even disobedient to their parents.

Parents do not respect the elderly, the one who gave birth

In fact, parents are a child’s first teacher and most of a child’s behavior is learned from their parents. In addition, according to research, most of the good qualities and behaviors of people are formed from childhood.

So, if you are not filial to your parents and have a bad attitude towards the elderly, your children will take it for granted and they may form a lack of respect for both grandparents and parents. Future. A Chinese writer once said: “If you want your children to be filial to you, the best education is to be filial to your parents first.”

If you want your children to be filial when they are old, you should set an example, respect and take care of the elders, sow the seeds of “filial piety” in your children and grandchildren.

Parents often beat and scold their children

Although society is constantly progressing and developing, there are still many parents who use spanking to discipline their children.

As everyone knows, beating and scolding parents will only lead to two extreme consequences.

First, children are afraid of being beaten, become very obedient, do not dare to make a single mistake and later become timid and cowardly, which is detrimental to them. It is difficult to achieve great achievements in adulthood

Second, the more parents beat their children, the more rebellious they become. There is a deep hatred in their hearts, and in the long run, they no longer have a filial attitude towards their parents in the future. Later on, children will also “return people’s religion to others”, actively abusing others.

Parents’ prejudices

If there are two or three children in the family, the parents will certainly be a little biased. According to research results, 70% of parents prefer a certain child, and in real family life, the actual percentage may be higher than this number.

Parental favoritism can easily lead unattended children to become introverted, increasingly lonely, while favored children can become arrogant, domineering, and unkind to their fathers. mom.

Not only that, the fact that parents are somewhat one-sided, easily leads to the emotional state between siblings that is not as good as friends, the parent-child relationship is also affected.

The ancients preached: “Bach Thien filial piety vi fairy” (Hundred good deeds, first filial piety). Children’s filial piety to their parents is the natural reason of heaven and earth, the cultural and moral foundation of society. It cannot be said that an unfilial person is also a good person.

However, parents are the mirror that reflects in the lives of their children. There is a saying: “Like father, like son” because of that. In order for their children to be filial and obedient, parents must also be a good, honest person.