Teach your children to help others tactfully

However, it is also necessary to teach children that, even if you help people, you must also be sensitive and keep them dignity.

Why help people but be delicate?

Sometimes parents do not pay attention to how to educate their children, leading to inappropriate behavior that children receive. Later, there are times when my child’s personality is not brought into full play in an honest lifestyle.

Children need to be taught that helping others is voluntary. Only when a person is committed to volunteering to help others can something meaningful and right be brought about. Helping others is not because you want to achieve something, sometimes helping others, you will have to suffer or lose something. So, if you have a heart that wants to help others, it is not necessary to seek in return.

I have a beautiful shirt, I want to give it back to the poor who is wearing a torn shirt. The market is crowded. In this situation, you can choose to: (1) help them directly to receive praise from others. This approach can be good for the person helping, but it makes the recipient feel embarrassed, and lose dignity in front of those around them. (2) help them not face-to-face, say “this shirt is a reward for a long time work that you have done. Today, I have the opportunity to return my gratitude…”

The second way is ingenious, both helping them and preserving their dignity. Like the saying “when giving money to beggars, please squat down slightly, do not stand tall to make them bow”. This is to help others, not to enjoy the pleasure of the benefactor.

Real story

In a impoverished rural area, there was a family of two, who lived in a situation of “roosters raising children”. When the boy was 10 years old, a circus troupe came to the countryside to perform. His father agreed to take his son to the circus show he had long been waiting for.

In the queue to buy tickets with his father and son was a family with eight small children. Looking at it, I knew that the family was poor, but the children were all neatly dressed and behaved politely. They were holding hands, standing behind their parents, excitedly discussing clowns and circus animals, obviously they had never seen a circus performance before. Their parents proudly stood in front of them, the mother looked at her children affectionately, feeling that her husband was like a hero.

The happy-faced father smiled and proudly said to the ticket seller: “Please give us eight child tickets and two adult tickets. I want the kids to have the happiest and most memorable day ever!”

But after the ticket seller gave the total price, the couple froze as if they wanted to faint. The mother was clearly dismayed, let go of her husband’s hand, and lowered her head. The father’s lips moved, sweat poured out, his face turned pale. Apparently they couldn’t afford to buy enough tickets to the circus. The couple stood dumbfounded, not knowing what to say to the children. The 8 children were still carefree, very excited, talking non-stop about the circus show they were about to see.

After witnessing all this with his own eyes, the 10-year-old boy whispered in his father’s ear: “What should he say to his son? Dad, they’re all so excited, if I tell them the truth, everyone will be disappointed!”

The father said: “Yes, for a father, this situation is too ironic. As a father, there’s nothing worse than breaking a promise to your children and letting them down!” Both father and son wanted to help them, but their family was not very good at that time!

The father said to his son: “If we don’t watch this show anymore, will you agree?”. Hesitating for a while, the boy suddenly opened his eyes wide and said: “Dad, I have decided, we will go home and give this opportunity to them! After that, you have to depend on Dad!”. “Okay, son! Look at me here!”

He happily followed his father. The father’s next action made him surprised, even unforgettable for the rest of his life. His father quickly went behind the man. When no one was looking, he threw the money he was going to use to buy the ticket to the ground, then bent down to pick it up, then patted the man in dilemma on the shoulder, saying: Hey man, you dropped this money!”.

The man was dumbfounded for a moment, then immediately understood what was going on. This was a kind man he didn’t know who wanted to help him, and only in this way could he help him retain his dignity as a father in front of his children.

That father couldn’t help but be a little confused. “There are things that can’t disappoint children, do you understand?” – the father whispered in the man’s ear, then put the money in his hand, then loudly said: “Luckily I picked it up. okay okay!”. That man looked at the money in his hand, his lips moved, tears rolled down his cheeks, trembling with emotion.

The story recounted above has spoken a valuable moral in life. That’s when helping others, and at the same time, never forgetting to uphold their dignity.