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Controversy that daughter is father’s previous life lover

Public opinion believes that it is necessary to “remove” the propaganda of this “sick” saying because it can cause distortions in perception…

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Recently an old saying in an actor’s talkshow Cao Thai Ha “digged” again: “Dad, maybe in my previous life, you and I were lovers… I hope that in my next life I don’t have to have three children anymore, let’s be husband and wife, so that their love can be more sublimated.“.

This saying makes many people “allergic” because the father-son relationship is a sacred feeling that cannot be compared with the relationship between husband and wife.

At the same time, “king of koi fish” Thang Ngo posted a photo taken with his newlywed wife, singer Ha Thanh Xuan, with the caption: “Daughter from a past life“.

That is why many people are dissatisfied with the sentence many people often say as a habit when seeing a daughter entwined with her father.

Below is the opinion of Dr. Vu Thu Huong.

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Actor Cao Thai Ha

DOESN’T SEE THE EMOTION UP HERE, THAT ALSO HASSES THE PARENT-SON RELATIONSHIP

– When recently actor Cao Thai Ha’s statement was dug up with the saying “I hope that in my next life I won’t have three children, let’s be husband and wife, so that their love can be more sublimated”.

Next, the “King of Koi” called his wife “the daughter of a previous life”, the public felt discontented. It is thought that this saying is not good at all, even it can cause misunderstandings, distorted thoughts, and distortions in the perception of many people. As a doctor of education, how do you see this saying?

In my opinion, father is father, son is son. If this sentence is correct, the family has 4 daughters, how many lovers did the father have in his previous life? In fact, father and son are two different generations, two different views, two different ways of life.

There are many father and son couples who cannot talk to each other because of disagreements. Between them exists blood love, I respect my father, my father loves me.

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Dr. Vu Thu Huong

If you think in the wrong direction as the saying “father is a lover in a past life”, then you really underestimate the once-in-a-lifetime sacred relationship between father and daughter.

If we use this expression, we will not see the emotion appearing on the sentence, but also make the repulsion lingering, sometimes haunting the father-son relationship. Using it would be even more odd.

– Actually, this saying has been controversial on social networks for a long time and has not come to a consensus. In your opinion, is this a saying that should be “removed” or “condemned”, to avoid the bad consequences that can come from thinking to acting from adults to children?

This saying is a recent form of word of mouth. In the past, in Vietnam, we had a lot of good folk songs and proverbs, but now we often make up strange sayings.

It can be as obscure or misleading or offensive as this quote. Some are meaningless. There are also good sayings, but quite few. Reality proves, we don’t need to “remove” but only need less and less people to use it, at a certain stage, it will fall into oblivion.

After the recent scandals, we also clearly see the objection of this saying, so there will certainly be less people using it.

With children, we don’t necessarily ban or “remove” the unsightly things around them, but we do need to point out what’s not so good in those things for them to distinguish between good and bad.

“Remove” is not necessarily “remove”, and when we do not pay attention, it is not present in our lives.

Like in my family, I never say this at all. Therefore, my child does not think much. When she grew up, she knew how to consider it, she only once said “I think this sentence is very stupid”, that’s all.

– Many people have mentioned the dangerous consequences of “pedophilia” from this familiar-sounding saying…

I think we also don’t need to analyze a sentence too closely. Although, I also have to admit that this quote evokes a very impure relationship. However, careful analysis of the sentence is also useless. It just makes it very uncomfortable.

Daughters and Fathers NEED SPACE WHEN CAREING AND ACTIVITIES together

– The famous Austrian neurologist and psychologist Sigmund Freud once mentioned that girls tend to be more attached to their fathers than their mothers. But anyway, the husband and wife relationship and the father-son relationship are completely different, don’t you think?

Well, on this alone, I think what Dr. Freud was saying wasn’t quite right. Prefer a son or a daughter more, it depends on the individual. My father has 3 daughters, my father loved my sister when she was young.

It’s not so obvious growing up, but there’s always a gap between father and son. That gap is the generation gap, the heterosexual gap. It’s not easy to close such distances to be so close to dad.

My daughter is also closer to her mother than to her father. I am willing to share everything with my mother. Mother and child can lie next to each other with their feet on top of each other “transcontinental trade”. But with my father, I only said moderation.

I myself am a person who prefers girls over boys. Therefore, I am always extremely happy to have a daughter.

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WE SHOULD FORGET THIS STATEMENT ASAP

– As a senior in education, as a mother, as a woman, what situations and stories have you encountered “embarrassing” from this statement?

I think, maybe we haven’t forgotten, the ratio trespass from the biological father is almost 1%. It’s not right to say awkward, but to be precise, there’s nothing more painful.

Touching such great pain of child victims is cruel. So, I think, we should forget this saying as soon as possible.

– In your opinion, how should the closeness or touching between a father and daughter always have a special limit?

Father and son have generation gap, gender gap. Even at a young age, a daughter and father need a distance when caring for and living together.

I often advise parents that the care and sex education of a daughter should be for the mother, that of a son should be for the father.

The clarity in family relationships also helps the children form the right habits and pure personality. Therefore, we also need to keep this clear distance for our children.

According to Vietnamese Women

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