Hanoi mothers teach their children to make everyone praise

The fast pace of modern life, the explosion of smart devices… are factors that have a strong impact on the parenting style of millions of parents. They are more confused, bewildered, worry more and fail more, even though they seem to have in their hands countless tips as well as modern educational methods.

Ms. Hoang Bich Thuy currently lives in Hanoi, is the parent of two girls, a 5th grader (Duong Bao Han) and a 1st grader (Duong Khanh Ngoc). She believes that she does not apply a Japanese, Jewish or American style of care and upbringing. Instead, she shared:

“Raising children is the top concern of parents. Each parent will have their own parenting style, suitable for their living environment and family situation. And especially, suitable for their children. Personally, I have applied many different styles and methods, but in summary, I choose the method. Eclectic – means choose what is best, most suitable from the above methods. But note that it is necessary to apply flexibly according to the environment, living situation of each family and be creative, according to the parents’ ability.

The orientation of children’s upbringing depends a lot on the parents’ goals. My wife and I appreciate the ability to self-study – independent – sociable for our children. Learn knowledge, go along with basic life skills, and have the right attitude. When he has a foundation, I let him develop on his own.”

There are two PRINCIPLES mastered by this mother in the process of accompanying her child:

1. Prioritize Learning, but Learning to Understand

Because not learning, means not developing. What matters is what your child learns and how he learns. In order for her child to have self-study skills, Ms. Thuy only instructs how to learn in 1 week. After that, she did not tutor, the children had to learn on their own. Studying is a personal matter for each person. When you have the ability to self-study, you can study anywhere, any subject.

The subjects I study well, I’m sure I understand. The subjects I did not study well, were because I did not understand. She and her husband will support or help their children learn more through books and online.

Thuy’s house divides Math, Physics and Chemistry – is the father. Mother – remaining subjects. So when you have a problem, you also know how to find the right person. It’s both efficient and time consuming. But before seeking help from others, you have to think for yourself and find out first. When thinking and not understanding, then ask teachers, friends, parents. Besides studying at school, Ms. Thuy’s family does not send her children to extra classes.

Thuy’s eldest daughter.

2. Teach your child independence skills

For example: Cooking, cleaning the house, how to talk to people, how to handle everything going on around you… and how to love yourself. Learning will support your child a lot while practicing life skills.

I love to cook and often go to groups to learn how to do it as well as good tips from my uncles and aunts… Right from the 1st grade, I learned to eat vegetables with fiber, fat is fat, rice is rice. provide starch, and must eat enough. Therefore, Thuy’s friends are not picky eaters. Any dish can be eaten. And love trying new things. When cooking, you also know how to not get burned, if you get burned, immediately use egg whites to apply…

When parents are not at home, the two sisters take care of each other. She washes my hair, prepares rice and water. Once, Ngoc had a fever, after calling her mother, Han knew to take fever-reducing medicine for her to drink, monitor her temperature regularly, and give oresol even. And when I had a fever, I called my mother: “Don’t worry Mom, I have a fever!”.

Another time, I slipped and fell, bleeding my head. Ms. Han called her mother to calm down and clearly said: “Mother go home immediately! I fell bleeding a lot, I can’t handle it!”. After that, stop the bleeding and run downstairs to open the door and find neighbors for help. When Thuy and her husband got home, Ngoc was also bandaged. Two sisters are sitting obediently with their uncle. When the parents returned, they took their children to have 2 stitches. I don’t whine or complain either.

At school, children also learn and practice situations such as fire and explosion. What to do in step 1, what to do in step 2… but Ms. Thuy teaches me step 0 – calm down! Take a deep breath, calm down and do whatever you want. If you are not calm then the following steps become meaningless!

So every year, or when the house changes, Ms. Thuy always… leads the tour. Take your husband and children around the house, clearly stating what to put where, how to do it, when to do it, when not to. Firstly, everyone knows where to get and store things in the right place, so that the house is always neat and tidy and does not waste time when needed. Second, in case there is an emergency, it can be handled.

Both of my friends know where the junction is, when to turn off the power, and what not to mess with. When you understand everything, the ability to handle it will be faster and more timely. Especially in an emergency, it is very difficult to calmly handle the problem properly. Should form a daily routine for children, life will be easier.

Ms. Thuy said that all methods are suitable for each child’s age and personality, most importantly. It may be suitable for the first child, but not suitable for the later children is completely normal, so parents do not need to worry too much! While teaching, pay attention to the children’s reactions, and adjust accordingly. It is important that parents agree on how to teach their children, and both support them.

“Currently, the children are healthy and happy and have the habit of self-studying – the habit that they most desire. In addition, they know what their responsibilities are in the family. Going to school, they know their responsibilities to the family. How is the school… To be independent like now, the children also have to go through training and… sometimes it’s sad, but in general, they are obedient and obedient to adults.

Taking care of children is a long way, sometimes very inhibiting, very frustrating, very troublesome… Each age has its own physiology, each problem… but as long as you don’t stop again. Be patient, be patient with your children. Improve your knowledge, train your emotions and attitudes towards your child… then both you and your parents will grow up and become better.”Thuy shared.