10 ways to help your child calm down when angry or in an emergency

Controlling negative emotions is always a difficult issue in life, especially for children who have difficulty controlling their thoughts when anger overwhelms them. Signs when children lose their temper are upset, screaming, irritable, crying or silent. At this point, the first important thing you need to do is to help your child stabilize his mind instead of whining, yelling or blaming him.

1. Parents need to keep calm

Parents need to stay calm, it is best not to yell or yell at children. This can be difficult, but not impossible. Remember, young children cannot regulate their own emotions, so if you want them to be calm, you have to be calm, even calmer than them.

2. Talk to your child

Instead of being upset, parents should try to access their child’s feelings. This will help you determine what causes your child to become angry and lose his temper. Instead of resenting your child’s anger, try to figure out why he’s acting the way he does. Be patient and monitor the situation like an outsider.

3. Use a few stories to teach children

Mothers can use stories as a teaching tool. Young children are drawn to stories, making them one of the most effective parenting tools for most moms. Use stories to help children learn to regulate emotions. For example, you could tell stories about a child who crashed in the middle of a supermarket or about how a child ran around the yard to regain his composure.

Hold me when I lose my temper

4. Immerse yourself in stories

Listening to stories is one thing, but actively participating in stories is another. Role-playing a story helps children self-regulate their emotions. By using pretend play, parents gently push their children to feel different emotions.

For example, you could act out a scene where you repeatedly take a toy away from your child. In that situation, your child may feel uncomfortable, even though he or she knows you’re just pretending. However, role-playing gives children the opportunity to practice dealing with their frustrations effectively.

5. Ask your child to sit down and communicate

Ask your child to sit down, take deep breaths when he is angry or angry, to calm him down.

Then communicate with the child. Because communicating openly, honestly and in accordance with the child’s development is the way that we enter the child’s world. We will understand what children are thinking, how they feel, and offer appropriate solutions to help them regain balance and calm before any situation.

6. Let your child listen to a tune he likes

Children will feel happier when listening to music they like, this also helps them calm down. Children should listen to soothing music, and do not say anything when the child is swaying to the beat of the music. Ask questions when your child is calm.

7. Hold the child in your arms

Babies feel safer and less anxious when you hold them in their arms. Or not, you can give them stuffed animals or pets that they love so that they can feel shared and comforted.

8. Direct children to other activities

You can tell a few stories or show your child their favorite TV show if they are scared or worried about something. Or you can let your child play with a toy or participate in a gentle sport activity. Children will be less afraid when participating in these activities.

Don’t “add fuel to the fire” when your child is angry

9. Get rid of guilt in children

We all make mistakes and so can children. Instead of being stubborn, scolding, accept and forgive what happened. This way not only will you feel happier as a parent, but you’ll also demonstrate to your child how important it is to recognize flaws in judgment as well as forgive.

We need to learn how to apologize to our children when we misjudge a situation or react too quickly. And children will learn from you too.

10. Pay attention to children’s activities

On LifeHacker Offspring, Geoffrey Redick once said: “Children’s playtime is parents’ Facebook time”.

It may sound ironic, but the truth is that today’s parents pass up a lot of opportunities for their children just to satisfy their own interests. Imagine a situation where you’re glued to your phone when your child screams with a bloody knee. At this point, the child feels extremely uncomfortable because they think they have been abandoned.

So, pay more attention to the child’s activities to always be in a state of readiness when suddenly something goes wrong.

Source: Vinmec, LifeHacker Offspring