As the saying goes, parents are the first teachers of a child children. The importance of parents to their children is obvious, if parents do not pay attention to their daily behaviors, it will greatly affect children.
There are 3 actions many carefree parents do in front of their children, but its consequences are bigger than you think.
First: Parents quarrel
Life pressure and troubles at work make adult life full of difficulties, husband and wife conflict is inevitable. But if you quarrel, you must not hurt your children.
One parent told the following story: Some time ago, a husband and wife had an argument over something. At this time, the daughter came over, crying while holding her lap, preventing her mother from packing up her things. Seeing her daughter like this, the mother started packing for her daughter to take with her. Who expected the child to cry even harder.
The mother held her daughter in her arms, comforted, asked her why she was crying so hard? The daughter angrily said: I don’t want to see my mother arguing with her father, otherwise my parents divorce, I am no longer at home… Hearing this, the wife is stunned, the husband is also extremely bewildered. The two discussed a lot, and finally set a rule not to argue in front of their children…
We often think that children do not understand anything, can argue in front of them freely. But in reality, the sensitivity of children is beyond the imagination of parents. There are times, parents think it’s just a few petty arguments and forget about it later, but the heart of the child is still tense.
Second: Excessive intimacy
Son avoids mother, daughter avoids father. Harmony between husband and wife is a good thing, but you must pay attention to your every action.
One father said: One Sunday when I returned to my hometown, the children played by themselves, the adults were busy with their own work. By accident, I saw my son’s tiny hands stroking the inside of my cousin’s blouse. I secretly called my son aside and asked who taught him to do this? Unexpectedly, my son looked at me puzzled and said: “Doesn’t Dad often rub his hand back and forth with mom?
I felt embarrassed and didn’t know what to do, could only tell him that later on not being allowed to do so, it was wrong to do so. In my heart, I also told myself that in the future, I must stay away from the children when the husband and wife are intimate, they will only imitate without knowing what is right and wrong…
Many parents think that cuddling in front of their children is as normal as kissing or cuddling. But that is not a right choice. Many children are very young, but they already know how to be close and cuddle their girlfriends and there are a lot of out-of-bounds actions that we can’t control just because they want to follow. Therefore, please pay attention to this issue to keep the child an innocent and pure soul in its own right.
Third: Bad words
A psychologist once shared the story. A certain parent met to ask for advice about how his child used to talk nonsense, becoming increasingly “hard to control”. Even when being reminded by parents to study, instead of obeying, the child staggers away and responds with a cheeky sentence. “How to discipline this brat?” asked the father.
The expert looked at him silently, thinking for two minutes before slowly saying: How many bad words did you just say? The father was stunned for a moment. It turns out that out of habit, when talking to the expert, he accidentally “padded” in some bad words without even realizing it.
There are many things that parents cannot do to force their children to do. Parents themselves are not disciplined in all their actions, but they ask their children to be neat. That’s the reverse way. Parents who teach their children good words come from the desire for their children to be obedient and mature, but they go against the educational method, so they often fail.
In raising children, being an example is extremely important. We set a good example every day, then slowly children will learn that good thing.
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