Does your child have ‘King’s Son’ syndrome?
In the 1960s, psychologist Diana Baumrind did a study of more than 100 preschool-age children and realized that there are many ways to educate, but the worst kind of education is “permissive.” meet your child’s needs”. Since then, I accidentally contracted the syndrome called “King’s son”.
Flipping the case of students fighting at a famous international school in Ho Chi Minh City, which is attracting the attention of the public, the question that arises right now is: Is “international” still alive? Is the environment healthy for the child to develop? Or is that simply where the battle for elite in a miniature society is officially starting? And are the children the result of “King Son Syndrome”?
“INTERNAL”, “EXTERNAL” AND THE LONG TERM STORY
Psychologically, many Vietnamese have the notion that au is a foreign product, labeled with Japan, Korea, the US, Germany, etc., all of which are good products and quality products. Phones, cars, clothes, agricultural products and other imported products are increasingly favored, clearly dominating domestic products.
Not only stopping there, the trend of integration and globalization of humanity contributes to the formation of “foreign good” ideas, pushing people’s way to more advanced thinking: sacrifice my father’s life, strengthen my son’s life”, sacrifice everything to try to let me enter the desirable “international” environment that in the past, my father and mother never had the opportunity. It’s a place where parents expect civilized teachers to teach their children many languages and new things in the vast foreign horizon; where parents hope their children will have friends, healthy relationships; where parents believe their children can be happy, happy and develop to their full potential every time they step into the large school gate.
Although the practical benefits cannot be denied: comprehensive physical and mental development, giving children independence with diverse extracurricular activities,… But like the principle of the iceberg of elementary school. According to the novelist Ernest Hemingway, what people see is sometimes just the tip of the iceberg. Besides the obvious good things, no one understood that in that promising land there was violence among children.
And then, the place that people call “Dream School” – the dream school is the place where parents and adults are ready to fight against each other in the name of their children, regardless of right or wrong, just If you need to touch the family’s little children, you will do your best to protect them. There is protection by force, money is there, the media is there, etc. Is the word “love you” too vague? Are parents trying to set an example and lead their children to such behavior? A behavior that lacks love, lacks the spirit of sympathy between people in society; Behavior that sometimes transcends cultural norms unwittingly shapes a child’s personality.
Thoughts of the same cannot exist whether in the past, present or future because in any matter, good or bad is never absolute, they always exist in parallel even when people don’t pay attention. However, the word “international” should be re-examined, that perfect dream should be more closely linked with the reality of the painful problems that are happening before our eyes, in front of both those who have been and are dreaming of this dream. that place.
“INTERNAL” OR “EXTERNAL” IS GOOD, BUT FAMILY FOUNDATION IS THE BEST SCHOOL FOR CHILDREN TO DEVELOP
“Father is the guide that shows you the way to the outside world” (Spencer Johnson). Toddlers from the first steps to the babbling voices, next to the children always appear the silhouettes of their parents. Then when I got older, the stupid questions I asked were all explained thoroughly by those first teachers so that I could understand this world. Children grow up to witness the behavior of their fathers, feel the boundless love of their mothers, and then gradually form their personalities. Thus, whether a child in the future becomes talented and happy depends a lot on the bravery and dignity of the parents.
Back to the “king’s son” syndrome with typical symptoms:
– Command, control – Forcing others to obey their will;
– Harassment, bullying; Eternal faucet, harassment;
– Always imagine yourself as a “special person” – just want to be a director/celebrity… but rely on, refuse to train and strive;
– Easy to explode, blame when something is wrong. It is especially difficult to say sorry.
It suddenly dawned on me that it was purely the result of indulgence. Parents have given their children everything they want to create an aggressive, impulsive person with the disease “narcissism” and the thought that the outdoor round, square land is the best.
Sorry, thank you is the key to all problems but “Sorry seems to be the hardest word to say”. Maybe somewhere, at some point, people think that apologizing and thanking is superfluous, polite, and unnecessary… Maybe modern life is too noisy and rushed that people can’t make it in time. Realize that your actions and words have hurt others. Or maybe because their ego is too big, they take it for granted that they are helped, and when they make a mistake, they don’t condescend to admit it.
Indeed “Ten years is the story of planting trees / One hundred years is the story of skillfully planting people”. What is happening in front of our eyes, school violence is something no one wants. But if it happened, just hope the adults on both sides can calmly handle it so that everything will end in peace, so that the children can learn, follow, and practice the behavior culture for the present and for the future.
I hope that parents will truly become friends of their children so that their children can easily share school and class stories; Be the earliest to follow in your child’s footsteps through the ups and downs of adolescence. In particular, send a word to the children out there – even if the sky falls, even if the end of the world tomorrow, someone will always be ready to protect them with all the love they have, that is family – father, mother and dearest people.
Please, don’t make this whole world a cold place like the North Pole, live and behave so that this place is filled with the warmth of love!
(Synthesis: Limdimstory)
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