Do my parents regret taking their son too seriously?

My family has parents, I am the youngest, the first two sisters and the third brother. Parents only work in agriculture but take care of their children’s education. Now my parents live in the countryside. The first sister and the third brother are working in the country, the second sister and I live abroad. My three siblings are married and have children, I am still single. My parents wanted me to stay close by, so they gave me my current house, fearing that my children would fight in the future, giving my brother a piece of land on the street in the countryside. This piece of land first belonged to my sister, then left the original price to my parents.

Mom consulted me. I said that should not be rushed, so that the land on the road in the future, if there is something wrong with the house, sell it to take care of the job, and do not let the parents take care of their old age. Tomorrow, whoever takes care of their parents will receive all that property. And if the mother wants to divide, then divide equally among four brothers and sisters, should not distinguish between boys. Mom thought about it, then decided to share that land with her brother. The sisters who know the story also want to like me, leaving that property for their parents to take care of their old age. Every time he returned home, he told his parents that he wanted to open a company, while he was helped by his sister to lend him money to buy a piece of land.

My sisters and I thought, why do you want to do business without selling the land you have, but keep asking for the land of your parents. While the sisters will lend him more if he sells his land, he still doesn’t have enough capital to do business. My parents thought again, afraid that if they don’t help now, he will blame them later. For you that you do business is not considered lost. If you and your sister-in-law are reasonable, people will help you even more. My first sister has a harder time than my brother, but she also helps my parents a lot. Before, he could not help his parents with anything, only asking. He and his wife live selfishly. In the past, there was a dispute with my parents several times. Those times, the sister-in-law yelled at her mother, she cried, and he just defended her.

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Once my father was sick and had to go to the hospital in Hanoi. Everyone is far away, no one can take them away. At that time, my mother stayed at the boarding house to look after the grandchildren. Mom worried about Dad, cried all the time, wanted to take him back to the hospital but brothers and sisters didn’t agree. My sister-in-law said that my father was sick and old, and my mother stayed to take care of the children for me, only one year to return. My mother had only been looking after him for a few months, at that time my sister-in-law had not yet worked, so I had to fly home to take my father to the doctor. Sister-in-law only respects her grandmother’s family, my brother also listens to her. She considers my house to be nothing, contemptuous of her face.

Later, when my parents are old and weak, they don’t know how to treat them, so I want them to be fair. If we divide it equally among all four people, we will also leave that money to take care of our parents, and put it all to the ignorant, it will be too late if our parents regret it later. I don’t know how to advise my parents, I also told many cases where parents value their sons but when they are old, children can’t take care of them, but they can only rely on daughters, parents don’t listen. What should I do now?

Gem

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