5 mistakes in parenting make them patriarchal
Every parent wants their children to be mature, virtuous and of good quality. However, many parents still apply incorrect parenting methods, making children not only have no opportunity to develop but also fear their parents. Here are 5 common mistakes in parenting that make patriarchal sons and daughters susceptible to temptation.
1. Beating, reprimanding too harshly
The old people often have a saying: “Love the whip for the leap”, but it does not mean that when children do something wrong, parents use the whip to correct it.
Children’s souls are inherently vulnerable. Curses such as: “you’re such a fool”, “you’re a naughty child”, “I’d rather my mother didn’t give birth to a child”, “I don’t have a naughty child like you”,… or the beatings will be imprinted in the minds of young people. Over time, those things haunt me, making me afraid to be near my parents. Besides, there are many children who protest by becoming the “label” that adults assign. Even more rebellious, ready to respond to parents.
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2. Men respect women
Undeniably, today there are still many families with the idea of respecting men and disrespecting women. This not only adversely affects girls, but even boys are implicated.
When parents are too concerned about their son, the daughter in the house will feel neglected and despised. They will feel inferior, unfair. Gradually, the girl will develop jealousy and selfishness towards her brothers and sisters in the family. That will make the brotherly love not bond.
And a son who is surrounded and pampered by his parents from a young age will not have the courage to grow up. Faced with challenges in life, it is easy to give up or run back to cling to parents. Many children who are pampered become lazy, selfish, and lazy. Besides, there are also many cases of patriarchy, following the parents’ thought of respecting old men and women.
3. Let your child live so happily
Any parent who doesn’t love their child doesn’t want to give the best for the child. However, over-indulging children, letting them live in “velvet”, while working alone will easily lead to those children being lazy, ungrateful, not appreciating everything in life. .
Too indulgent, parents inadvertently make them arrogant, incompetent, not trying.
Psychologist Michael Thompson once said that “Every child’s childhood has an end, and the goal of this ending is to foster independence in the child’s character and free the child from parental protection to pursue challenges.” higher”. This means that, when raising children, it is necessary for them to face life’s challenges so that they become more mature and mature. Don’t be so overprotective of children that they lack the necessary life skills. Parents cannot follow their children for the rest of their lives, so the best way is to teach them independence early on.
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4. Take the poor to raise children
Contrary to the indulgence, raising children in the “wealth” above, many parents have the idea that they have to let their children suffer in order to appreciate what they have. However, the reality is not necessarily true with this thinking of parents. Children live in poverty, they will easily arise greed and envy with friends. In order to achieve the goal, this child will not from all tricks but become a terrifying scheme.
When growing up, children are easily overwhelmed by material things. Especially with girls. They are easily lost by flashy and vanity things.
5. Avoid sex education
According to statistics from the Vietnam Family Planning Association, each year in our country there are about 300,000 abortions. Even more worrying is that the majority of these are abortions of girls aged 15 to 19. In addition, statistics also show that 20-30% of abortions occur in unmarried women and 60-70% of those who have abortions are students.
That shows that sex education for children is very important. However, most Vietnamese families have not done so. Parents are still shy and avoid when it comes to sex for their children. Some families even consider it a bad thing, a taboo thing. This leads to the child entering the puberty stage being confused, girls do not know how to handle situations on menstrual days, boys do not know how to control their emotions when there is a need. Children will not know safe contraception methods, sexually transmitted diseases, personal hygiene, protect themselves against harassment …
Above are 5 common mistakes when parents raise their children to be human. If you find yourself making a mistake, parents should correct it immediately so that their children can have a good educational environment and grow up more perfect.
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