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From husband and wife to sworn enemies

When it comes to divorce, most couples turn to confrontation. Those who bit by bit of salt in half, now fight little by little in court.

The post-marital property dispute of the “former” husband and wife of Ms. M. (born in 1982) – Mr. T. (born in 1981) in Phu Nhuan District, Ho Chi Minh City is one of the typical cases for ” uncompromising dispute”. Looking at the two people in court, everyone regrets, because they are a beautiful couple and have two beautiful children aged eight and six.

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Hard to believe they used to love each other so much (Illustration image – SHUTTERSTOCK)

Siblings love each other for nearly four years in college. Their marriage was even more complete when they gave birth to a boy and a girl. In order to raise a family for their daughter, Ms. T.’s parents made a contract to give her and her husband a house in front of Nguyen Kiem Street (HCMC). After the death of the father, the mother went abroad to settle down with the belief that, with the property she left for her husband and daughter, it would help the children to have less trouble making a living and the husband and wife and children to have more time together. .

However, the couple’s previous small rifts became “unacceptable”. The wife thinks that the husband is miserly, and the money is given to his wife. And the husband thinks that his wife loves to have fun, the two children are still young, but when friends invite him to coffee, his wife locks the door and locks the children in the house to go out with friends. In addition, the husband also accused his wife of “promiscuousness” and evidenced by sensitive messages with strangers.

Both of them said “divorce!”, but looking at the two beautiful angelic children, Mr. T. suppressed his pride in men. The couple sat down to express their feelings and desire for the “other half” to change. After that, the “family rule” was approved by both. Accordingly, Ms. T at home cooks, cleans the house, takes care of the children, does not leave her children at home to go out for coffee, does not text which may cause misunderstandings with the opposite sex… Mr. T. each a month, he has to give his wife 20 million dong in market money and spend on clothes, milk and diapers for the children, when he comes home from work, he helps his wife clean the house…

In the first month, the “family rules” were fully complied with by both parties. But then, Mr. T. said that his wife was wasteful, buying unnecessary things, so she cut back on spending. Ms. M. said that her husband did not keep his word, so he also ignored the commitment board.

The conflict grew and the siblings agreed to divorce. Children and property are mutually agreed upon by both parties. About a year later, Mr. T. sued his wife to court for a property dispute after the divorce. Mr. T. asked to divide the house according to the ratio of his wife 6 – he 4. Ms. M. struggled: “That’s the house my parents gave me”. Mr. T. admitted that the house was given to him by his parents-in-law, but given to the couple, he has the right to inherit. Moreover, he has also repeatedly paid for his mother-in-law.

Mr. T. said: “I don’t have enough money to pay for the house, but I do give a little bit at a time to my wife’s parents. However, there is no proof of this.” Therefore, Mr. T. thinks that he only asked for 40% of the allowance, thinking about his ex-wife. He argued: “My ex-wife and I are co-owners of the house, and it is legal to split the house in half.” Ms. T. still disagrees, she said that, because she was afraid that her son-in-law would be sad, her parents let both Mr. T. bear the same name, and her parents were bound to have a house to live in, not sell. However, this binding is only oral and has no legal value. Neither side accepted anyone, so they both hired lawyers to get involved.

By this time, Mr. T. was angry with his wife for being greedy, deliberately prolonging the dispute, so he changed the request for property division from 40% to 50%. At the same time, he also asked to halve the rent for the house that his wife occupied for many years, about more than 1 billion VND (30 million VND per month for rent). Because each side did not give in and constantly presented new evidence and changed requirements, the case dragged on.

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When no mutual agreement can be reached, property disputes and child disputes often drag on for both parties (illustration image – Our-Team)

Finally, the People’s Court of Phu Nhuan District heard the first instance and sentenced the house to be divided into two. As for the rent, Mr. T. withdraws his request as compensation for the last time he did not provide child support. From a beautiful love, wholeheartedly for each other, but less than ten years of living together, Ms. M. – Mr. T. has become a sworn enemy, even though they still have two young children in need of love. of parents.

Get married – no one wants a divorce, but life is full of variables and no one knows what will happen in advance. Therefore, in order to avoid trouble later, the couple should be transparent from the beginning, especially when property is created before marriage, or is given as a gift. There are many cases, when going to court, one party almost lost everything because of the common property of the husband and wife, but asked the wife’s sister/sister-in-law to act in her name. Or there are properties that have already been transferred, but have not yet been able to transfer their names, and because they are relatives, they do not do any paperwork. Until the marriage fails, one party turns around and the other party loses.

In married life, if they cannot go together to the final station, husband and wife should break up civilization, not for themselves, but also for their children. Because children grow up, in order to develop comprehensively, in addition to physical care, they need enough love from their parents.

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In the old days, the grain of salt was bitten in half because they loved each other, when they divorced, they didn’t want to give up at all (Illustrated photo – PressFoto)

More than a decade of following her husband to see her children

Equally fierce is the battle for children. There are many mothers who have been ruled by the court to have custody of their children, but the father has kept the child hidden. Like Tran Cam Hong in Tien Giang, she has spent more than ten years diligently searching for the son her husband hid when he was two years old. She cried with swollen eyes, went to her ex-husband’s house begging to see her children, but was always refused. She gave up buying and selling fruit at the market, just listening to someone point out where there is a child like her child, like her husband, Ms. Hong.

Once, as soon as she met her child, she did not have time to hold her child’s hand, but her husband took the child on a motorbike to run away, she could not keep up. Hong’s husband is a construction worker, so she tinkers with all of his construction projects. Whenever she meets someone whose house is under construction, she asks about her husband and asks for pictures of her husband and children. Once, because she chased her husband and son, she was hit by a car, suffered a severe pelvic injury, and had to have her uterus removed.

Ms. Hong confided: “I miss you, there are times when I want to go crazy, I don’t want to live anymore. But before I see you again, I die without closing my eyes.”

According to www.phunuonline.com.vn

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