Choose a poor husband – Infonet

Last night, I received a call from H., her sister in college, she called me to ask… borrow money. Due to her company’s closure, no income, she fell into serious difficulty.

The problem is, it should be me, not her, who asked for the loan, because 3 years ago, she married a rich man, the house in the city is big and beautiful, no more nightmares about renting. home like me now.

Husband and wife keep each other’s wallet (illustration)

At that time, she had a splendid wedding, making many sisters jealous. From then to before and during the pandemic, she still shows on Facebook pictures of the couple holding hands, bare lips, fresh flowers and beautiful dresses. Looking at it, who would doubt that she had to work hard for money!

She said: “I don’t dare to tell my family, my parents know, my colleagues even dare not express it, I am afraid that they will be hurt and ridiculed. Now it is so difficult that I have to put down my face to call you. Really. In fact, even before marriage, I had to agree with his point of view: Although living in the same house, before having children, everyone’s money is spent, living expenses are divided in two, Someone’s guest, that person spends money to entertain, so I absolutely do not infringe a penny in his wallet, even, I have never dared to touch that wallet, never knew it contained such things. what”.

For a long time, many women have thought, and even made it the criterion of life, to get a rich husband to rely on. Theoretically, it is so, because women are weak and need men’s strong shoulders to rest their heads. Women with the natural role of wives and mothers, they have to sacrifice their time and passion for work to take care of small families and small children, at least within the first 10 years of marriage. Their husbands have time for their careers, so the economic burden on their husbands is understandable.

But, in terms of love, women are an independent entity, and most of them accept overcoming difficulties to take care of their families, but they are also progressive thinkers: They get married to have support. , but is a support for love, for the heart, for the spirit, not absolutely relying on just one husband’s wallet, or her husband’s property.

The husband and wife relationship is a special relationship, even animals have many species that choose to be faithful, build nests and take care of children together, so why do humans have unique ideas? level of definition: Husband and wife are a couple of lovers?

It is true that there are couples who sometimes treat each other as lovers to treat each other as sweet and romantic as when they were dating. However, unlike my sister and her husband. It seems that they are too clear and fair with the husband and wife relationship. It seems that there is no sharing and connection between the two people who are considered to be in love before marriage. Even “mistresses”, I don’t think they have treated each other like that.

As her sister said, for the past 3 years, she has had to endure the harsh realities of family life. When she said that, I knew that there were many girls from the provinces, for the sole purpose of getting a rich husband, household registration, and inner city house, and accepting a family with a strange concept. so lumpy.

Turns out, I almost made the same choice as them. There was a rich and elderly man who wanted me to marry him. If I was willing, I would have my own house in the city, own my own car, and not even have to work so hard to have children and take care of them. Before that proposal, I suddenly asked: After all, I have waited so long to finally marry someone I don’t love?

We choose to be poor but happy (Artwork)

Rejecting that materialistic marriage, I married my now husband, a poor guy, but we loved each other, and together we overcame the difficulties of life.

To choose means to accept giving up. I have ignored material things, to choose happiness. And of course it would be better to choose both. But either way, both of these things do not come naturally, people have to build up.

According to phuuonline.com.vn