My boyfriend pays off his debt and wants to register his marriage with me

I am 31 years old, have been working for a foreign company for a long time since graduating, after working as a manager, have a good salary. I quit my job for almost a year, not because of the epidemic but to support my boyfriend in the business. He is a foreigner, difficult because of language differences, in the process of doing business, he was deceived by others. We have known each other for almost four years.

There was a time when I quit my job and supported him. In the process of working together, due to disagreements about management, I left and let him decide for himself. We still love each other, but we don’t talk about work anymore. At that time, he also met, exchanged, and flirted with her on the internet. I found out, he said he did it just to ask for a job. I couldn’t verify the information, so I told them to stop temporarily and be friends. He apologized, begged to come back. After his persistence, I relented and turned back.

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Now he owes quite a lot due to being cheated and previously failed in business. I went back to support, he paid 3/10 of that debt. Financially, he does not pay salary, but I will be divided 10-20% depending on the order. Because the company had a lot of work, I didn’t ask him to transfer the money, just leave the money in my name, he said I could withdraw anytime. He also bought a car in my name for the two of us to go to work. He helps me with cleaning and cooking. He cooks quite well, although he is culturally different, he also learns to eat Vietnamese food. When we disagree, he usually calms down, waits for me to cool down, then asks the reason, then the two of us sit down to settle. He works hard, just loves to do business. When going to karaoke, friends called peaches, he directed me to go.

Because I’ve known him for a long time, I’m also an adult, so I should consider having children. I asked him when he got married. He said if I wanted to, I would get married, but I didn’t want to do the marriage paperwork. Previously, he had a wife and a son, when he divorced his property was divided among his wife first, thinking that he would rebuild himself, that property was also given to his son before his wife, so he left empty-handed. When he came to me, he also showed me the divorce papers. I asked, he just said he was in debt, so he didn’t want to register his marriage, for fear of affecting me. He wants to pay off the debt first. As far as I know, it’s a pre-marital debt, doesn’t affect it either.

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I don’t calculate the loss, I can’t say that I have the virtue of sacrifice, I think it’s okay for the one who loves me to work a little hard, the two of us will work together. I just wondered, if I don’t register my marriage later on, how will I give birth to my child, then it will be a lot of trouble for my child to go back to school, not to mention other problems. My family is also well off, my parents may not agree with this love story. Many people say that I am capable, also cute, absolutely can find better people to love and raise a family. Sometimes I also think, how long do I have to wait for you?

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