No sex Psychological obsession when getting married
One fine day, MSc Ha Ngoc Manh was examining a doctor when there was a timid voice from the other end of the phone line. The person talking is a guy from Nam Dinh who has been in Nha Trang for a few years on business, fell in love with a girl from his hometown here and then became a husband and wife. Ironically for more than 3 years now, they still have not been in a relationship.
This story is extremely rare in the community, but in a hospital specializing in andrology in general, and sexology in particular, it is not uncommon.
Dr. Ha Ngoc Manh has been predestined with male majors for more than 10 years. From the day he entered the profession, he was allowed to follow his teacher. Dr. Le Vuong Van Ve went to treat difficult cases of sex. After living in the same house for a few years without doing anything, they tried everything and then sought medical care and treatment in many places without any change.
The workplace is quite special, it is a room in a motel, hotel or a discreet hospital room, it is a place for a young couple’s room with the support of sex specialists.
There are countless stories surrounding these couples, each one unique and most of the time the problems are cause, manageable and supportable.
Back to the story of a guy from Nam Dinh, a guy who once fell in love with some girls from his hometown, then when he was in college, but with his wife, he has been watching for 3 years now.
The initial examination of the wife was also nothing special, except for the internal examination or examination of the external genitalia, which showed apprehension. Psychological inquiry and evaluation revealed a phobia in the wife’s psyche dating back to childhood. At that time, my mother threatened that that private area should not be touched by anyone, it was very dangerous. Growing up, I was threatened about how painful sex would be, and how dangerous it would be to get pregnant and give birth.
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Just like that, growing up the obsession with sex and men also grew and became afraid. Every time her husband touched her, she shrank back and pushed her husband away. Therefore, we need to pay attention that sex education is necessary, but it should not be done in a negative way, easily affecting reflexes in the sexual process of the patient.
Another couple is also a health worker in Hoa Binh. The prelude was exciting, but when it came time to decide, the wife had vaginal contractions with difficulty breathing, convulsions of limbs. 2 years of persistently trying and failing, the husband became depressed and lost his desire. From where only the wife has problems, now to both, the doctor has to do twice as much as usual, treating both husband and wife.
Reading this far, many of you wonder – sex is an instinct, no need to teach everyone when they are old enough, why are there so many difficult couples.
In fact, sex also has many problems from the first time such as: Unable to do it at the first time, ejaculating too early at the first beat, tearing the glans, bleeding hymen… But If they can’t have sex for a few years, there must be a cause, they need to deal with those causes before they can live a married life.
Many couples come for reasons from their wives, but it is not uncommon for men to come.
A couple can be called skewed chopsticks, the sister-in-law is 7 years older than her husband, has been married for more than a year, but still has not had a husband and wife life, even though she is very active. It turned out that he was mentally ill, used drugs to treat it decreased sex drivecan’t get an erection.
The treatment for these difficult couples will be multi-step. The simplest is psychotherapy so that the patient realizes changes in behavior during sex, thereby reducing difficulties during sex. Next is the use of drugs and measures to support sexual activity or even directly support sexual activity.
In Vietnam, there are very few centers and hospitals that can support sexual activities, Vietnam – Belgium is such a place.
According to statistics, every year, dozens of couples experience this condition. However, due to shyness and lack of information, I did not know where to get treatment. Gradually, psychological depression, from people without disease to having – most commonly decreased sex drive and erectile dysfunction. Therefore, when treating a couple who have difficulty in sexual activity, support from both sides is needed.
Overcome psychological problems during sexual activity. The beginning of many difficulties in sex are prejudices, negative views on this issue such as: Sex is painful, it is bad, fear of consequences such as a sick pregnancy. Psychological obsessions from puberty such as coercion, teaching, suggestion from parents, family… Find these problems and solve them, most of the cases will progress well in terms of functioning. sexual activity or create a good precedent for later sexual support activities.
Additional learning methods and skills. This is the next step in the treatment process. Once the patient is more open-minded, additional knowledge of the basics of sexual activity is essential. Knowing how to stimulate the other side, sensitive points, and when to have real sex helps patients take the initiative to have sex and support their partners in the sexual process.
Try sex at home or in the hospital, before that can assist with vaginal dilation for the patient. Use appropriate lubricant.
Sexual support, if not effective, is the last resort, but it is quite effective, can be successful in up to 2/3 of cases. After this time, the patient can “live” on his own in a relatively normal way.
Conclusion: Inability to have sex is a rare disease, we need to recognize it early and treat it promptly to avoid having a lot of impact on psychological activities and marital love life.
Ths.BS Ha Ngoc Manh has listed a few causes of inability to have sex as follows:
– Erectile dysfunction in men due to different causes such as disease, blood vessel damage, drug use.
– Ejaculating too soon.
– Psychological trauma: history of abuse, abuse, prejudices since childhood
– Diseases in the genital organs: Genital tract infections cause burning pain, thick hymen, vaginal spasms…
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