Most children have one thing in common about the things they like, which are wanting to possess and not wanting to share with anyone. This also leads many parents to educate their children to learn how to share to get happiness. But in fact, being too generous is not a good thing for children, and parents should not rejoice too soon because of this.
A child who is too generous, does not know how to refuse is not good
Ly’s children have been very obedient since childhood, always get along well with their friends at school and have many good relationships. This is also thanks to Ms. Ly’s way of education because she always teaches her children to share with everyone. But gradually, she realized her son was too generous.
Many days, in order to keep her children from going hungry at school, she puts some cakes in her bag every morning for them to eat during the break between classes. However, she was surprised when every day when she came home from school, the two children were hungry. I found out that every time she eats a cake, her children share it all with their friends. Not only that, Ms. Ly noticed that her children often didn’t finish school on time, always coming home later than their classmates. Thinking that her child did wrong, she was punished by the teacher, but when she inquired, she realized that because she was afraid to refuse the request of her classmate, her daughter often stayed overtime to help her friends on duty.
Seeing her child like this, Ms. Li was a little worried. I realize that children who are too generous and do not know how to refuse, will live very tired..
Why are children so generous?
Most parents and teachers teach their children to be generous to others, to help others when they are in trouble. If taught and reminded every day, the concept of generosity will naturally be imprinted in children’s minds. When they encounter anything, the first thing children think of is to be generous.
However, at a young age, children do not really understand the meaning of the word generous, they simply understand that generosity is in all cases a need to share and help others. This kind of misunderstanding can lead children to become too generous, and that’s not really good.
Generosity also needs a degree, if children are too generous, they will easily fall into these 3 outcomes:
1. Don’t know how to refuse
Children who are too generous in the future will not know how to refuse others, no matter what others ask, the child will also agree again because of the fear of refusal. This will cause a lot of problems for the child, cause the child to waste time on things that are not his or her own, and will hurt themselves.
2. Thinking of others too much
Children who are too generous will always care too much about what others think and think too much about others. No matter what they do, they always think of others first, are afraid of doing wrong, do not have their own opinions, and are timid. Such a “please everyone” personality type will tire the child very much and will leave his feelings alone.
3. Seeing yourself become unimportant
Being too generous will make children feel that their own thoughts and feelings are no longer important, everything they do will be based on the thoughts or ideas of others. Even if it’s something they want to do or something they like, as long as someone else doesn’t want it, the child will automatically dismiss his own thoughts and feelings and become very mean.
(According to Sohu)
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