My husband and I have been married for 3 years, after 2 years of working and accumulating, we decided to have children. As the due date drew closer, my wife and I argued fiercely about where she would stay.
In the crowded rental city, my mother also refused to go to the city to take care of her daughter-in-law because she said she was used to living in the countryside. I just told my wife to go home to stay at home and let her mother-in-law take care of it, which is a very common thing. This is her first grandchild, my mother and at the same time firmly refused to let her go to her grandmother’s house. However, his wife insisted on returning to his hometown to give birth to a child.
The couple argued many times, finally I issued an ultimatum to my wife not to return to my hometown to stay, then divorced, let her raise the children alone and then do whatever she wanted. Only then did the wife listen to her husband.
My husband and I argued many times, and finally I issued an ultimatum to my wife and did not return to my hometown to stay and then divorced. (Illustration)
My wife was born in the city, after 3 days in the hospital, she was discharged to take her baby home. I rented a taxi to take my wife and children home, stayed with her for 2 days and then had to go back to work. If I don’t work, how can I take care of my wife and children? She has her mother-in-law to take care of her, so I don’t have to worry too much.
A month later, I was constantly busy, even sleeping time was not enough, so I didn’t go back to my hometown with my wife. Sometimes I have free time to video call her just to see her face. Calling my mother to ask about the situation, she said everything is fine, my children are good, she takes good care of my wife, not letting her do anything. I think that my wife is very happy, so I feel very secure.
After a month, I went back to my hometown to pick up my wife and go to the city. I miss you too, I want you to be close to each other. Once she recovers, she can stay at home to take care of the baby alone, without any help.
When I got there, I was startled to hear my child crying in the bedroom, there was no one outside the living room, and my mother and wife were nowhere to be seen. I rushed into the room, frustrated and impatient to not understand where everyone went to let my baby cry like this.
But when I got to the bedroom, the sight that met my eyes made me panic. My child was lying on the bed crying and lost his voice, his wife was sitting right next to him, but he did not hold the child to comfort him. On the contrary, she was hurting herself by banging her head against the wall.
I immediately ran to my wife and grabbed her, asking her why she did this. At that time, I was shocked to see my wife’s appearance, her hair drooping, her eyes dark and bloodshot, perhaps because of staying up late. She looked at me blankly and then burst into tears.
That same day, I took my wife and children to the city. Consulted with a friend who is a doctor, I took my wife to the hospital to be examined and learned that she was showing early signs of postpartum depression. I was scared when I heard it, realizing that the time when my wife was staying at my grandfather’s house was not as simple and smooth as I thought.
She has a reputation for being cared for by others, but she is almost exhausted both physically and mentally. (Illustration)
A few days later, my wife calmed down, I gently asked about it, only to find out that what my mother told me was not true. After returning home for ten days, she forced my wife to get up and work. She said that when they had just given birth one or two days ago, they could get up to work in the fields right away, where would they take a month off like my wife is now. It’s already easy for her to just do chores around the house.
She also often scolds her for being clingy to her husband, because my wife has been staying at home since she was pregnant due to her bad health and unable to work. My child is crying all month, he often cries at night, his wife can’t sleep well at night, but she can’t rest during the day.
She has a reputation for being cared for by others, but she is almost exhausted both physically and mentally. The pressure is too much, the wife can’t stand it to make those uncontrollable actions. Fortunately, I returned to my hometown in time to find out, there were no serious consequences, otherwise I would regret it for the rest of my life.
Now my wife has been treated quite well, everything is gradually stable again. I know it’s hard to blame my mother because the generation of grandmothers is different from ours now. So I also just want to advise husbands who have a wife to have children to consider carefully and pay more attention to their wives. It’s best to have your wife and children by your side, thanks to the ladies taking care of you, it’s good, but otherwise, you can hire someone to create the most comfortable conditions for your wife to rest.
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