It’s hard for a husband to keep up with it because his wife is hot and cold at times

Ms. NTT, 45 years old (Dong Da, Hanoi) is currently an accountant of a small company in Hanoi. She herself has entered the perimenopause stage, so it has also changed a lot.

“Sometimes I’m very excited, wanting to have sex with my husband. The feeling at that time was as intense as when I was young. However, there were times when I was not very interested. Although my grandfather also cuddled, But my body is “inert” and not earnest. Sometimes I also feel miserable for my husband because I don’t know where to let his wife’s wishes be right”, Ms. T. expressed concern.

Ms. T. is a case that has been consulted by MSc Phan Chi Thanh – Chief of the Office of the Training – Directing Center, National Hospital of Obstetrics and Gynecology in recent times.

According to this expert, not only Ms. T., but also many women in the perimenopause – menopause stage are also living with this condition.

“This erratic change in relationship needs also leads to anxiety, when women themselves are confused and do not understand their bodies, which greatly affects the relationship between husband and wife,” said Dr. Thanh. shall.

According to Dr. Thanh, during the period of 40 – 50 years old, a woman entering the perimenopause period affects her sex life.

During this period, the menstrual cycle is irregular, sometimes it takes a few months for a period, but sometimes a period is 2 times a month.

It is the change in the menstrual cycle that causes a woman’s hormones to fluctuate sharply, leading to a chain reaction of fluctuations in sexual desire: Sometimes it burns fiercely when ovulating, sometimes it cools down due to ovulation. a few months without periods.

“During this period, couples need to prepare mentally together to adapt to erratic hormonal changes. Enjoy the ups and downs, ignite the fire of affection together, but don’t either. depressed, when there are times when they are not interested in sex, it is important for women to increase sharing with their “other half” about both the physical and mental changes of their partner. On the contrary, men need to sympathize, share and be a solid support to accompany women to overcome the challenging perimenopause period,” advised Dr. Thanh.

Also according to this expert, premenopausal women can go to an obstetrician for advice and treatment. Early treatment with hormone therapy can not only help with problems in your sex life, but also help with many of the unwanted changes in perimenopause. In addition, eating and drinking with nutrition, exercising, getting enough sleep, staying optimistic … are also measures to support women to overcome this period of many changes in the late afternoon.