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Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam: ‘Adults are too strict when not allowing children to go to public places… leading to easy social phobia and depression’

08/06/2022 08:31 GMT+7

Instead of banning children, people should encourage them to go to crowded places and teach them civilized and polite manners.

Recently, female incident singer Minh Hang Asking guests to attend their wedding not to bring children because this is an adult party has caused a stir with mixed opinions.

Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam: Adults are too strict when banning children to weddings!
The wedding card of the singer One Round the Earth clearly states the policy of not welcoming children

The number of supporters said that the wedding is a great event, especially when the main character is a famous star. Letting children attend can mess up the party, and parents themselves can’t fully enjoy the solemnity and joy of the wedding. Because children are often hyperactive and naughty. Bringing them along is quite troublesome. Parents always have to worry about diapers, diapers or fussy children… In addition, the organizer will also cost more on the cost of organizing the party.

Besides, there are also many opinions against this way of life.

They don’t think children deserve to be treated like this. They are very innocent, naive. Taking your child to a wedding is also an exciting childhood experience. And in fact, there has never been a case of children ruining the party. Parents and adults let their children go with them, they also have a sense of taking care of the children!

Share with Infonet on this matter, Assoc. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam – Dean of the Faculty of Educational Sciences (University of Education, Vietnam National University, Hanoi) stated:Children coming to luxurious parties such as weddings, birthday parties… are very good experiences for children, so that they can make happy memories of life.

Attending fun events with parents will be an opportunity for children to learn coping skills in specific social situations such as a wedding, a party, a product launch press conference. Children will be explained by their parents about the meaning of life events and family emotional connections. And happy childhood memories can be used as a way for the child to reminisce and motivate themselves in the face of difficulties later in life.”

Not allowing children to go to public places, namely weddings, parties… is that adults are being too strict with them.

Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam: Adults are too strict when banning children to weddings!
Assoc. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam – Dean of Faculty of Educational Sciences (University of Education, Vietnam National University, Hanoi)

Teach your children how to behave civilly in public

According to Assoc. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam, instead of banning children, everyone should encourage them to go to crowded places and teach them civilized and polite manners.

In order for children to know how to behave in public, especially in formal and polite events, parents and adults need to “rehearse” with children first. Adults can make conditions to their children that: Parents will bring their children to a formal event, there will be a lot of activities and children need to commit to 3 things (For example, always be with parents, do not run out of sight of parents; hands do not arbitrarily reach for anything without parental consent; greet, smile and keep order).

If you do those 3 things, you will receive a benefit, a reward when we return home. For example, your child can eat snacks before going to bed or he can stay up a little later to watch a favorite movie.

Children often forget quickly because they are busy playing, so adults should often remind them to remember. Maybe before you go, write down the requirements and rewards on paper for your child to keep in the carry-on bag. Reiterate the rules as a family on the way to the event and ask your child to repeat them before entering the event. With a friendly and encouraging attitude, your child will.

‘The lack of physical playgrounds for children has made us have a generation of young people who seem only confident in cyberspace but very “ignorant” in real-life situations. Banning children from going to public places not only deprives them of opportunities to increase understanding and practice soft skills, social skills, behavioral skills and problem-solving skills flexibly, but it also increased manifestations of social phobia and risk of depression as well” – Dr. Tran Thanh Nam – Dean of the Faculty of Educational Sciences, University of Education, Vietnam National University, Hanoi

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