Most victims of harassment don’t respond right away

Many people think why at that moment the sister didn’t scream, but only texted her back the next day? I can answer that, because they have never been harassed, they can make such a statement. I have been sexually harassed, it can be affirmed that very few people have the ability to protest at that time. These are people who are old and have a lot of life experience; or must have a very strong mentality. As for the young, inexperienced girls, they will be scared and scared to the point of stiffening, not daring or not knowing what to do because of fear and shame, at best they can run away.

Because many people have the habit of victim-blaming (blaming the victim like “it has to be like that”), the girls are very scared and do not dare to denounce loudly as soon as the incident is happening or just happened. out. Their mentality is not ready, afraid of being judged. Even when many people are harassed, their brains are almost so tense that they stop working, they are not even aware of what is happening. When they think about it later, they realize that they were harassed at that time. So it was normal for the younger sister not to tell her sister until the next day. I think she thought long and hard before she spoke. The fact that the wife’s sister did not immediately punch her husband to protect her sister is enough to understand that her sister’s hesitation is correct. How can a person like that tell his sister to trust him?

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To my sister-in-law in the article: “Don’t forget that your parents live to be virtuous for your children, you also have a daughter, so think about the future for your child. I think about what just happened to my sister, if it happens in the future, too. How can I act right when I come out to my daughter?” And those who point their noses at the sister even though the perpetrator has admitted the crime (ie the sister did not slander) say why the victim accepts to be silent, but the scumbags still dare to go on a rampage. . Not all girls are brave enough to admit that they are harassed. Those who dare to speak up are only a very small part. Like I am also a familiar commentator in the Confidential section but still have to remain anonymous when posting this post, instead of commenting below the other sister-in-law’s post.

As long as society is still evaluating and commenting on victims of harassment, then people like us still gnaw on resentment and fear in silence, holding on to psychological wounds for many years. There are even people who were molested as children, still hating men later on, unable to overcome their aversion. You guys think you’re saying some innocuous nonsense, but victims like us also go online and read all the comments. I don’t even dare to admit it online, how dare I admit it in real life? When I was harassed, I was just a middle school student, definitely not wearing revealing clothes and not seducing anyone. So don’t think that the victim must be because of how he dresses or what he does.

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When a man admits to being harassed by a woman, many do not believe him. Everyone thinks that men are so strong, how can they not fight women? That’s not right. Responding to harassment isn’t a matter of strength, it’s a matter of psychology. Not to mention, the pressure of society’s assessment of male victims is much stricter than that of female victims, and they don’t even dare to reveal it.

In this article, I don’t want to delve into the issue of male or female, just want to say that you should never ask a victim of harassment why not protest, and then assume that if they don’t struggle, yell, shout, scream. shouting, fighting back, that means they have nothing to hide. They didn’t do anything wrong, it was just that at that moment, the emotional shock made the brain of the person being harassed to betray. No one is naturally mentally strong enough to handle such a situation. Harassment is a crime, the victim is not at fault.

Han

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