To become husband and wife is not easy, but it is even harder for two people to spend the rest of their lives together. However, there are still couples who are close to the earth and far from heaven but still love each other as passionately as they did in the beginning. Their life is so happy and peaceful that many people admire and envy.
Architect Shuichi Tsubata and his wife Hideko are in their 90s, their combined age is 178 years old and they are named the sweetest old couple in Japan. They have two daughters together, both of whom are married.
In 2018, the elderly couple decided to leave the prosperous city to the suburbs in Aichi Prefecture to live, enjoy peaceful and happy days in a simple wooden house. Every morning, the couple wakes up, eats breakfast together, and chats by the peaceful garden.
Mr. Shuichi Tsubata and his wife, Mrs. Hideko, are known as the sweetest couple in Japan.
Despite their advanced age, they still work hard every day, working hard in the garden and planting to create delicious ingredients for meals. family. Although it is difficult to avoid fatigue due to labor and old age, the happy smile is always on the lips of the elderly couple, making many people crave and dream.
When witnessing their lives, someone asked: How can grandparents keep their strong feelings through the years? The old architect happily said: We have been married for more than 60 years, but we hardly ever quarreled. The good life is not based on money. Life will be more and more beautiful when you love the simplest and most simple things.
Although they have been together for more than 60 years, they are still as passionate as when they were young.
Besides, Mr. Shuichi Tsubata also shared 4 secrets of his and his wife to keep their married life fresh without being boring or boring.
Accept the opponent’s flaws
No one is perfect, as a human, everyone has flaws and shortcomings. But for a lasting marriage, you should not change the person’s shortcomings.
Mr. Shuichi said that his wife was originally the daughter of the owner of the brewery, she spoke very frankly, frankly, acted carelessly and forgetful. However, he never tried to change his wife. “That’s how she is, I already knew that before marrying her”, he said.
But sometimes, the wife’s shortcomings can easily make things stagnate, even dangerous, such as her forgetting to turn off the stove when the water boils. But instead of blaming the other party, venting his dissatisfaction, he found a way to fix the problem, because blaming and venting will only lead to quarrels.
“I forgot to turn off the gas stove but didn’t you forget to remove the key last time? Who, who never forgets this, forgets that. So, if you want to solve the problem, don’t blame the other person, but say: It’s okay, I’ll help you! That is what it means to be with someone.”Mr. Shuichi shared.
Therefore, he devised a way to remind his wife with memos and message boards. Specifically, in the kitchen he will put a small board with the words: “Don’t forget to turn off the gas stove.” Or when washing clothes, there will be a sign next to the washing machine with the content: “I’m doing laundry, don’t forget to dry it.”.
Even in the vegetable garden, there is a wooden sign everywhere, stating that this piece of land is planted with corn, and that piece of land is planted with cabbage. Not only that, but he also left extremely sweet reminders for his wife like “Be careful with this tree, hitting your head will hurt“.
Try to avoid direct conflict
Mr. Shuichi said that husband and wife should avoid direct conflicts with each other, give each other space to calm down.
Married life is inevitable when husband and wife shove bowls of buckets and chopsticks. In this regard, Mr. Shuichi said that in times of anger, husband and wife should try to avoid direct conflicts with each other, give each other time and private space to calm down.
If you want to do good, say sweet words, you should say it right away, as soon as possible. But if the mood is not calm, you should wait a bit, think over the problem, then you can text or talk to the other person by phone before the two make up.
Don’t force each other
“Don’t force each other” is the third secret for this old couple to build a happy marriage.
“Don’t force each other” is the third secret for this old couple to build a happy marriage. Mrs. Hideko is a person who loves to collect things, just seeing beautiful cups and plates makes her unable to help but buy them even though she already has a lot in her house. However, her husband never complained but always said “buy it” generously.
“He has never interfered with my freedom. Whatever I want to do, buy anything, he lets me do it. This is rarely done“, Mrs. Hideko confided. On the contrary, she did not force her husband to do anything.
Therefore, not forcing each other is the way for the husband and wife relationship to develop firmly, instead, let the other side be self-aware. And if you always force the other person to do something they don’t like, sooner or later conflicts will occur, and over time the feelings between the two will crack.
Letting the other party live as they are
Mr. Shuichi never forced his wife to change anything for him and vice versa, neither did Mrs. Hideko.
Each person has a different hobby, passion, dream and the fourth secret to a strong marriage is to let the other person live the way they are. It sounds easy, but it’s not at all.
“Whatever Hideko wants to do, I will support her, even do it with her. In fact, in marriage, it’s just a small matter not to eat together, laugh together, play together, and talk to each other. What really erodes love is when the other person says: Because of you, I will change!
When uttering that sentence, perhaps the other party is feeling very helpless and miserable, because they can’t be themselves, have to change for someone. This is really the most dangerous ‘cancer’ in marriage“, the old architect shared.
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