The case of a male student who jumped to his death: ‘There are children who study very well but suddenly fall into the abyss of depression’

04/02/2022 16:52 GMT+7

On April 1, the incident of a male high school student climbing over the balcony of an apartment on the 28th floor of an apartment building in Ha Dong (Hanoi) and then jumping to the ground, leading to his death, shocked many people.

Initially, the police agency identified the victim as LNNM (16 years old) living in an apartment on the 28th floor. The victim was studying in grade 10 at a famous high school for the gifted in Hanoi. Before committing suicide, NM left a suicide note.

That same day, in Bac Ninh, an 8th grade female student was found dead by her family in a hanging position with a letter and diary saying “I’m going away”.

These two heartbreaking events continue to be an alarm bell for parents of teenage children because suicide at this age is a serious and very worrying issue in the context of students studying online. elongated line.

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Speaking of this incident, Psychologist Nguyen Hanh Phuc – Hanh Phuc Psychotherapy Counseling Center (Hanoi) shared that in fact, many children who used to study very well but suddenly fell into depression and anxiety disorders. And the root cause is that children do not have time to absorb knowledge through online learning as well as classroom learning, leading to not fully understanding the lesson, being criticized by teachers, and pressured by parents.

“Most of the time when children face mental disorders, they often change their moods, change habits, and hours of life, often overreact, children tend to like being alone and do not want to share. With whom.

However, many parents think that these are normal manifestations in the process of their children’s development, but ignore, support, and support their children’s psychology, making their children’s situation increasingly heavier. .

An important thing to avoid psychological anxiety disorders in children is that parents let their children speak their voices, express their preferences, and do not impose their own thoughts and education. your subjective dimension on children“, psychologist Nguyen Hanh Phuc said.

Also according to this expert, parents must also regularly listen to their children’s thoughts and aspirations, thereby having appropriate support solutions to avoid children falling into a state of psychological inhibition, reacting drastically. or reluctant to endure coercion. Along with that, do not impose academic achievement or expectations too high as this will put pressure on the child.

“Every child wants to study well to make their parents happy, but sometimes parents think that their child’s ability is limited, so parents themselves should not expect or impose their children.

Even choosing a school for their children is the same, if their child’s energy is limited, parents can find a school where they can study, have fun, live their lives as they are and most importantly, A school that makes children happy. Many parents do not know that their own excessive expectations will unintentionally create inhibitions for the child.

In addition, in the learning process, it is also necessary to help children arrange study and entertainment time for children reasonably, encourage them to practice sports.

Moreover, it is necessary to create closeness and attachment between parents and children so that children can confide and share when having difficulties in learning and in social relationships. At the same time, teach children life skills so that they are able to cope with life’s events“, psychologist Nguyen Hanh Phuc said.

Parents also need to be honest with their children about the problems they encounter in life because the child can become a victim of a bullying incident…. If the child is hurt for any reason, please encourage them. Encourage children to talk to adults. Being connected and supported will help your child feel safe and open up when facing difficulties instead of having to suffer alone. With immature experiences, children can be in danger at any time.

Hoang Thanh