Don’t let your son grow up like a plant with masculine instincts
Many parents often focus only on teaching their daughters life skills and sexual abuse prevention skills, but they forget that boys also need those things. Boys are also at risk of becoming victims of abuse, which negatively affects their development and even destroys their future.
Therefore, from a young age, parents need to teach their boys knowledge about sex in a methodical and scientific way. Proper parenting not only helps children prevent sexual abuse, but also helps them become a kind, upright, caring and protective man. Those are the poignant shares that recently writer Hoang Anh Tu – former Chanh Van Hoa Hoc Tro newspaper posted on his personal page.
Writer Hoang Anh Tu.
TODAY’S SITUATION IS INDICATION, INNOVATIVE IN THE PAST
At the beginning of the article, writer Hoang Anh Tu pointed out the painful situation: “Many mothers think only of teaching their daughters to prevent and prevent abuse, but forget to teach their sons. In the group of residents where I live, sometimes I still read articles reflecting the stories of many mothers bringing their sons 5. when he entered the women’s bathroom at the swimming pool because he was still young, he did not bathe and change clothes by himself in the men’s bathroom. flowers because “it’s a little kid who knows nothing.” Even changing clothes carefree in broad daylight.
In the elevator, children 7 – 10 years old, even the old man still wearing swimming trunks, went down to the pool topless. Men, what’s the point of going topless? Boys grow up with those things and take them as… normal. They fuck in the street and think that men have nothing to be ashamed of if others see them.
More men sit together and talk “this and that” like a feat. A guy who hasn’t tasted a woman is called a pede, a jerk, an idiot. Movies or stories about “teaching” boys about “women’s green light” are equally fictional. Like girls, it’s easy to dress revealingly. Like “single mom who is not hungry for sex”,…
Men’s thinking is as simple as all women are to go to bed. In addition to the cases of women who report that they are harassed, there are always countless comments like blaming the victim. And then there are many, many more children who make mistakes like that when they see the men around them, listen to the stories of their seniors’ battles.”
Mr. Chanh Van realizes that nowadays, many children are fearless, even when they are teenagers, they start with a prostitute or motorbike games, slapping women’s butts, joking in class by saying hug the girls comfortably. After going to work, it is many older women who often talk salty and joke about sex, making the “younger brothers” think it’s normal.
3 RULES TO TEACH BOYS TO BE AWESOME…
According to Mr. Chanh Van, the first thing is to teach a son about gender and limits. This is not only so that they know how to protect themselves and avoid being abused (the number of boys being sexually abused is not less than the number of girls) but also so that in the future parents will not have to feel heartbroken when their son is entangled. went to jail for the crime of humiliating his parents. You have to know that even boys have areas of the body that need to be respected and kept at a distance, including boys, not just girls. Teach your children the private areas of each person, you must not intrude and do not give anyone the right to intrude.
Mr. Chanh shares very useful principles of teaching his son.
Second, it is necessary to teach children not only to help their girlfriend, but also to help everyone. Teach your children to behave properly, to stay out of trouble, not to create trouble. Teach your children to arbitrarily take other people’s things is wrong, arbitrarily touching others is the same. “Walk through a watermelon field, don’t bend down to tie your shoelaces” is so. Respecting someone includes respecting their thoughts, their opinions, their bodies, their belongings. Conscious of boundaries and limits, boundaries.
Third, it is necessary to teach children to live dignified, straight back and hold their heads high with integrity. That is creating value for yourself in the eyes of people. You have nice shoes and nice clothes, but your value lies in being nice, righteous, and dignified. Try to study well, have odd talents, be handsome, admit mistakes and live responsibly. When you create that value for yourself, you will be loved, respected and will be successful in this life.
“Teaching a boy is just as difficult as teaching a girl, please don’t let your son grow up like a plant with male instincts. Because there are too many males out there living in the 21st century but haven’t escaped. Get out of the 18th century thinking. Don’t let us be the copy of that mistake. By 2034, just 12 years from now, it’s very likely that your son will be part of the 1.5 million surplus Vietnamese men’s legion. There, no girl accepts a man who lives in the year 2034 but thinks in 1934.” writer Hoang Anh Tu shared.
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