For students, the loss of trust and low self-worth is worse than any punishment…
Let me tell you this story.
In middle school, I was originally a special student in the class. Especially in the way that parents are often called to school, especially in the last year of high school. In the eyes of the teachers, I was a student who not only studied poorly but also liked to oppose. And if there was a place for me in high school, it would only be the Aspiration 2 schools – where all the stupid and bad students gathered.
However, one day, with a certain determination, I thought I would take the exam for the Literature class at Chu Van An School. I excitedly went to the Vice Principal (now teaching Literature in my class) to announce this very solemnly. I’m not good at Literature but I believe that I love words and have a good writing ability, so why not?
Contrary to my determined and excited attitude, the vice principal opened her eyes wide in surprise: “You???? Chuyen Literature Exam???? Truong Chu?????” accompanied by a frown and a mixture of shock and disgust in his eyes as if to speak: “Who do you think I am????”.
Call me sensitive when I say that I was really hurt by the look and tone of the teacher at that time. She left immediately after the brief conversation and left me in the middle of the schoolyard with a humiliating emotion and a broken trust. The future I’m sure it’s gone.
I didn’t tolerate violence or insults, but the teacher’s cynical statement and judgmental gaze left a young teenager confused about himself.
The story about how teachers behave with students is not new, almost any of us have experienced it more than once. It can be a cold attitude, words that range from implied to scolding, or even actions. I will add to that list tearing up books, throwing students’ things on the ground and arrestingput up.
Although I have not experienced it, but today when I saw a clip of a teacher doing this to her students, along with many people’s sharing about having had that experience in the past – I I think that must have been a common way of venting anger among teachers so far.
There are a lot of comments below that think it’s a proper punishment for bad students, that they have all experienced it in school and found it normal. I feel… astounded. Because even though I was once a very peculiar, careless, and rebellious student, I still could hardly imagine myself feeling normal if my books were torn to pieces and thrown on the ground, and then I had to knelt down to pick them up in the eyes of friends.
There isn’t a longer clip for us to understand what’s going on in that book tearing clip, but it’s understandable that the student made a mistake and suffered the teacher’s anger. Someone will say that facing rebellious students is a test of one’s patience, and it is not always possible for teachers to play the role of a fairy or a man to gently correct them? Perhaps, in that position, the teachers are not allowed to be angry?
Of course, teachers have the right to be angry. We are all human and it is understandable to have such feelings. But what is the limit of anger and disciplinary punishment here? When many teachers use anger as raw materials to punish their students, instead of looking for ways to protect and guide. As teachers, they think it’s necessary, and they have the right to do so.
And that makes many teachers turn themselves into punishers, when they have been given the right to correct students. In moments when anger is at its peak, someone will forget that they are in the position of a teacher responsible for teaching, but become an angry adult trying to punish a child. stubborn little. Those negative actions are hard to say as strict to expect better students, but simply venting anger and trampling emotions on a child who is in a passive position.
If someone said that there must be such punishments to train bad students. And without punishment, to what extent is the student likely to “climb on top of the teacher’s neck”? But isn’t the teacher sitting there to respond to every student’s behavior with a similar enmity? Remember, in the position of a teacher, the most failure is to use all negative punishments to teach your students, because doing those things is easy. In the opposite direction, the closeness to become a true friend, to listen, to empathize and give students more motivation to change – is much more difficult.
At a young age and in the process of self-awareness of students, what adults do will contribute directly to the construction of the person they later become. How would a teenager feel about himself when publicly insulted in front of his friends? How would a student feel if he was forced to eat food he threw in the trash? Or as in my case, the teacher will teach me how to believe in my dreams, how to become a better person when I bluntly look away, as if my future is abandoned.
If teachers do not know or intentionally do not know, students also come to school with a lot of pressure on their shoulders, just like adults. Pressure of grades, pressure of achievement, pressure of parents, … how many children will withstand even more pressure from the teachers themselves, who should be there to encourage and motivate members, instead of scolding and punishing?
The negativity in the teacher’s own behavior is not the strictness that helps the students to get better, but something that can destroy all the motivation of the students, causing them to lose all faith in themselves. , and can sometimes lead them to seek negative responses and responses. Remember the sad stories of recent times and please don’t make the school a place attached to your shameful memories, only to have more sighs because somewhere, a student has been killed. reached the limit of endurance.
“First is obedient, Second is knowledge” – We often remind students like that when they come to school, that they will be given priority to learn about the meaning and morality of being a human before entering to conquer knowledge. So have teachers who have been insulting their students really prioritized teaching with the sense of an adult?
It is obvious that when going to school, students will be taught knowledge to prepare for life. But saying that is not enough, a child cannot fully mature without joy and confidence in his own worth. In school, self-belief is something very invisible when placed next to measurable values like knowledge or politeness. But it is very important, because it determines the student’s effort and attitude to life.
That belief is also something that is very easily influenced, especially in the fragile age of teenagers. Therefore, teachers are not only teachers and educators, but also people who inspire and believe. Not every child is the best child, not every student is the best student. But no child does not deserve to be believed that they can be successful and happy. And teachers will be the ones to give wings to that belief for students, not take it away with outbursts of anger and estrangement. Because I think that is the true meaning of the teaching profession.
Back to the day my literature teacher left me in the middle of the schoolyard with a humiliating and bewildered mood. I don’t think the teacher wanted to make me feel bad. She just couldn’t balance the personal feelings of an adult who didn’t like this kid, and the directive responsibility of a teacher in front of a bad student.
That summer, I was still determined to take the Chu Van An Literature exam and then failed – just as she predicted. But as I write these lines and have actually made money from my words over the past ten years, I’m glad I didn’t let disappointment take over me for so long and continued with my work. I think I do the best.
Know that it is difficult to ask teachers to love all of their students and treat them amicably at all times. But if that can’t be done, teachers shouldn’t wrap their negative emotions in a strict and forged shell, and then make students hate and deny themselves.
Because for students, more than any punishment or discipline, the loss of trust and low self-worth is many times more terrible.
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