Women will always be strong and decisive to take their own happiness
If you ever thought that in our grandparents’ generation, they often lived together for a lifetime but could not start from love, the following story will make you think about the word Love and the word Nghia in marriage. .
On a forum, Yen Ly shared:
“This is my grandfather with my grandmother (ex-wife) and his current wife. In the months when he was diagnosed with terminal cancer, this was an emotional reunion of family members. .
When my father was about 7 years old, my grandparents decided to divorce and go to court decisively. Divorce was a far more terrible thing in those days than it is today. Now, every time I ask my grandmother why she made such a decision, she only says that because she feels unable to match her personality, she chooses to divorce to free both of them. The gossip of society she is not afraid of, but she is more afraid of an unhappy marriage.
Then my grandfather took a new wife who is my second grandmother in the picture. She also has with him 4 more children, who are her aunts and uncles now. And my grandmother is still there, taking care of my father, then taking care of the grandchildren until now. When the three of them are in their 80s, there is not much time left to remember what has happened, only the friendship remains, visiting each other and saying a few words of encouragement is enough.”
A story without drama, not too long but very meaningful and civilized. As a witness, Ms. Ly also expressed her views from the story of her grandparents:
“People think divorce is something negative, but it’s inherently only a match and then it dissolves, with a predestined relationship, they stick to the end of their life, with a predestined relationship, they only go together for a while. short self.
This lack is sometimes filling in what we lack. Going slow, looking broadly will see that everything is going with the flow of nature.
Keeping a word of mind steady and alert, whatever comes, we pick up what goes, we let go, gently, step by step.”
Ms. Ly herself sympathizes with and respects the word meaning that her grandparents have for each other. She also said: “It’s simply a piece of my family story that I want to share so people can have more perspectives on marriage. If a marriage can be repaired, it should be preserved, but if it is too damaged, it must still be left, but it should not be kept at all costs!”.
Besides admiration, there are also many people who expressed their opinions under the article, they assessed the decision as Ly’s grandmother would suffer, but she affirmed: “That’s how life is colorful and has many perspectives, my friend. Sometimes they are looking at their own image in it, the things they have, are or are afraid of will happen to themselves. Seeing suffering is what suffer for yourself, love is also love for yourself.The choice is yours and when you’ve decided to accept everything that comes your way, then when you look back, if it’s right or wrong, you still choose to live for yourself, not for yourself. to suffer for someone else. I see her decision as a strong move against many prejudices to be true to yourself.”
From the above story, Ly also sent a message to women who are in a situation of contemplating whether to keep a really expired marriage: “If necessary, fix it, if you can fix it, fix it. Don’t forget about yourself because you think for your child. Your child needs a strong parent who knows how to live true to himself, not a pretense, burden, and pressure. to try to be okay when not happy.”
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