1. They wait for the host to sit first, but they don’t necessarily sit last
This is part of the business etiquette you should know. When you arrive at a party, wait for your host to take his or her seat, then settle into your seat. If there is no host, you should wait for the oldest, highest-ranking person to sit first. However, you also do not need to wait for everyone to sit before you dare to sit even the youngest member. This can be inconvenient for people, making them feel uncomfortable.
2. They are willing to help but don’t let anyone make themselves a scumbag
Politeness means respect, and to respect others, you should first learn to respect yourself. Helping people is a good thing, but that doesn’t mean you should make yourself the person who says “yes” all the time.
Kindness should be given to the right person at the right time. If you don’t know how to say no, always agree to what you really don’t want to do or can’t do, you can be taken advantage of and not taken seriously by others. Learning to say no will help you focus your energy and time on the more important things in your life.
3. They make suggestions but never decide for you
This is mainly related to the situation when you guys are in the restaurant. It’s great when you help someone in need, especially when you’re so knowledgeable about the place. But don’t let that take the decision for them.
Polite people understand that what is right for themselves may not be right for others. They can introduce restaurant specials and the last person to make the choice should be that person, not someone else.
4. They know how to listen and don’t give unsolicited advice
Friends and colleagues may come to you to talk about their problems, but that doesn’t mean you should give them advice when they don’t need it. Counseling someone about their life can be seen as judgmental. Polite people never judge others about anything. They know no one is perfect and what they should do is listen to people who want to vent their hearts out, only giving advice, giving advice when asked.
5. They give compliments, but not on sensitive topics
Complimenting a colleague’s work skills or someone’s recent achievement is one of the business principles everyone should know. However, don’t give them compliments or comments about their looks, how someone has lost/gained weight… Not everyone is ready to accept such compliments. Many people feel uncomfortable, assuming that the only thing you notice about them is their appearance. A polite person will not compliment another person’s appearance unless it is a close relationship.
6. They are great party hosts and won’t clear the table too soon
This is something a lot of us have. You think it’s polite to clean dirty dishes so that the table looks cleaner while others are eating, but that’s not true. This habit can confuse the rest of the party, according to etiquette experts. It is easy for them to think that you are asking guests to leave quickly.
Better yet, wait until the guests have finished eating. This is something that service staff should also be aware of.
7. They’re good at communicating but won’t nod when they can’t hear
It’s great when you learn how to keep the conversation fun and engaging, especially while attending networking events. However, no matter how loud and crowded the environment is, you shouldn’t pretend you heard the other person when you didn’t. Even if the other person doesn’t seem to notice, you shouldn’t do it.
We may be trying to be polite, but according to communication experts, nodding like that is not advisable. It’s better to ask what you didn’t hear. That is the only way to show your care and listening to the other person.
8. They don’t come to the party late and they don’t come too early
Arriving late is definitely not a good idea, but do you think being early is a way to show politeness? The truth is that it’s not polite to arrive at a party too early when the host doesn’t ask for it. You come from good intentions, but this can confuse the landlord because it is out of plan. They are not ready to receive you and this can make the situation awkward.
9. They are open, easy to talk to, but don’t share anything too personal
Chatting happily, getting along with new friends, new colleagues shows friendliness and openness. However, don’t make those stories too personal. It can backfire, making people feel like they don’t trust you.
A polite person must be a master of small talk. A wise, skillful person always knows how to start a story, so that others can openly share without going too deep into the details of personal life.
10. They are friendly but they don’t arbitrarily touch, hug or sit too close
You might think that patting the shoulder or touching your hand is friendly and polite, but that’s not the case. Polite people always know to wait for a signal from the other person instead of touching others arbitrarily. Many people feel uncomfortable being touched by strangers.
Remember to keep a polite distance from your colleagues and partners of about an arm’s length. Any touch must be agreed to by the other party.
11. They maintain eye contact, but do not stare
Maintaining eye contact is the most polite nonverbal message you can send to people. Avoiding eye contact can easily make you look distrustful, like you’re hiding something.
However, if someone doesn’t even glance at you, trying to make eye contact with them will look like you’re staring. And this will of course make you unpolite in the eyes of everyone.
12. They hold the door for the latter, but don’t overdo it
It’s quite rude to slam the door when someone else is walking behind. That’s also why we should keep the door open for the person in the back and it’s a courtesy everyone should have.
However, this does not mean that you always need to stand at the door for the person behind, the important thing is the distance between you and that person. If the person is right behind you, don’t slam the door; If the person is very far away, do not stand still waiting for the door.
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