Behind the bedroom door there could be a secret that your partner doesn’t want to tell anyone. But sometimes, the problems faced make people confused, they have to seek expert help.
In a letter sent to insider, one woman shared, she felt miserable because it was so hard to “climax”. She and her husband have been together for 3 years. Both love each other, but sex doesn’t really satisfy him.
When “falling in love” with her husband or even when she finds herself alone, it is very difficult for her to climax. Although he tried all means in “sex”: Slow, agile, self-exploring and imagining … all to no avail. This happens so many times that sometimes he gets bored and doesn’t want to “love” anymore.
However, during sex, several times he asked his partner to make him cry, even by berating or slapping his face, or doing both at the same time, he reached orgasm. This made the wife feel confused with herself. “Why do I only reach orgasm when I am humiliated to tears? Am I in trouble?” he asked in surprise.
The woman is confused about her unusual preference for sex. Illustration
Site health reporter insiderJulia Naftulin shared this question with psychologists, sex and received a thorough analysis.
Like many beautiful things in life, orgasm takes time and patience. However, one can see the panic and despair of women who are trying their best but to no avail.
According to sex therapist Veronica N.Chin Hing-Michaluk (New York, USA), as humans, we seem to be easily embarrassed and confused when we find ourselves different from most people, even in “the story.” If you subconsciously think that sex has to be this or that and it doesn’t, you are likely to be confused. In fact, everyone expresses sexual desire in different ways, and nearly everyone struggles to reach an emotional climax. So there’s nothing wrong with “sex” when you’d rather give than receive or have to do something a little “weird” to sublimate.
According to expert Chin Hing-Michaluk, patience and understanding during sex, whether with the “other half” or with ourselves, can help us feel more comfortable enjoying love that is joyful and guilt-free. .
Canceling ingrained ideas about sex can take time and consistency, but it pays off. Therapist Chin Hing-Michaluk has met many clients who have gradually let go of shame about their seemingly “unusual” sexual preferences and behavior in order to enjoy the pleasures of being with their partner.
There are people who become more open-minded, willing to try new activities. Others have healed their wounds, their obsession with their bodies, thereby accepting themselves and freely discovering new things in their married life.
According to experts, when interests differ, partners need to respect each other and frankly share. Illustration
She suggests that those who fall into this category can seek out a psychotherapist who specializes in sexual disorders for help and remedial action.
As for crying to get an orgasm, experts say it can be the most intimate moment with your partner and help relieve stress. “Crying and having sex are both sensitive and release emotions and burdens. It’s perfectly normal for both to accept and understand each other and not cause any mental or physical harm to each other,” the expert said.
Some unusual sexual preferences
Everyone has different sexual preferences, some can be very different than usual, which sometimes causes problems in “sex” with the other half. Experts say that, if the hobby does not harm others, everything goes safely and with mutual respect, then everything is fine.
If the “other half” doesn’t like it or doesn’t get along, it’s important for both partners to communicate honestly and respectfully. As long as they both love and respect each other, there must be a way to resolve it according to the wishes of both parties. If you are unable to reconcile or one person’s preferences are affecting their relationship and feelings, you may need to seek counseling for appropriate support.
Here are some of the “weird” sexual preferences that counselors and therapists have shared:
A man can only “climax” when he kisses his girlfriend’s feet
Sexual health consultant Zheng Yixin – Taiwan Sexual Health Center encountered a consultation case due to unusual sexual preferences. 25 year old man feeling super horny on white woman’s feet with clean nails.
A man can only sublime when he caresses his girlfriend’s feet. Illustration
However, his girlfriend feels uncomfortable when his lover kisses her feet for too long every time she has sex. To please his girlfriend, he tries to skip this step but has a problem: When he can’t hug his lover’s legs, his “little man” has difficulty getting an erection and fast. Many times like that make his lover depressed and consider him a sick person.
Wife slaps husband to increase libido
This is the case of a patient who came to the Department of Surgery, Nephrology, Urology and Nam Hoc Provincial Hospital – Vinh Phuc. The 36-year-old husband admitted that he was scared every time he had sex because his wife was slapped repeatedly. His wife’s sudden slap repeatedly made him blush, dumbfounded. This only happened in about a month, when the wife said she wanted to “turn the winds” of love after the two had been married for 7 years.
When the husband asked his wife why she did this, she said it was a joke and felt even more excited when she did it. However, due to the increasing frequency and intensity of the slaps, he felt frustrated and scared, so he consulted a doctor.
Girls are more easily sublimated when having sex in public
A young man also “asked” the Taiwan Sexual Health Management Center when his girlfriend had a hobby of having sex in public places. The man is a 25 year old office worker who has had a girlfriend for half a year. Even though he loves his girlfriend very much, he cannot satisfy his sexual preferences.
Since falling in love, the amount of “sex” both in bed is very little, but mostly outside such as in the cinema, supermarket, restaurant, park, living room or even in the hospital. . There are times when he refuses but gets angry at his girlfriend. Moreover, the lover everything is fine except for sexual problems, so the man tries to obey even though he is actually afraid of being found out.
But the tears flowed freely when the boyfriend expressed his desire to make love on the swing at the amusement park. The guy was really annoyed and scared, didn’t want to be near his girlfriend anymore. In the end, he had to ask the doctor for help to help his girlfriend change.
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