When they grow up, children like this are the easiest to inflict pain on themselves

“This eraser smells so good, let me borrow it for a few meals!”.

“Can you give me this book?”

“Do you have anything to eat at home? Take it out and share it with your friends.”

Ha Vi, my daughter’s classmate, came to my house to do homework today, from the moment her daughter opened the workbook, Ha Vi always made many different requests, and her daughter did not refuse anything.

Before leaving, Ha Vi also held my daughter’s Christmas gift, a stuffed pig, and said regretfully: “This little pig is so cute, let me borrow it for a few days to play, so that it will be less scary to hug it to sleep at night.”

At that time, the daughter only reluctantly nodded in agreement: “Okay, just two nights.”

In the end, Xia Wei used various excuses not to return the little pig.

Children who like to take advantage, with many calculations, will not gain anything in life, but on the contrary also lose a lot of priceless things.

1. The child who likes to take advantage, the easier it is to lose opportunities

There is a story like this:

A girl went to France after graduating and started the life of an international student working while studying. She noticed that the local public transport system where she lived had some loopholes that she could get around, for example, when the stations just opened, there were no ticket gates, no conductors, everyone. Everything depends on the will of the people. So, the girl played her trick, she began to avoid fare, and was complacent that she was too smart for helping herself save on living expenses.

Four years later, the girl graduated with honors and confidently applied to multinational companies in Paris, but strangely, they all failed her right from the qualifying round.

Repeated failure made the girl full of resentment. At that moment, she was once again rejected by a large company, so angry, she thought this company was racist, but unexpectedly the other party responded like this: “If it’s just your educational background and education, we take you very seriously. But if we look at your credit file, we see you’ve had more than three fare evasions and punished”.

The girl tried to make excuses, but the other side said: “This problem proves that you don’t follow the rules, you are good at finding loopholes in the rules and using them maliciously. We cannot trust people like that. At work, self-discipline is very important. important”.

Faced with the girl’s unreliable behavior, the company frankly said that she probably won’t find a company willing to hire her in France or even all of Europe. They did not condemn, nor did they discriminate, even if the girl did not ask, they did not intend to say the reason.

Such exploitative people will make others feel afraid and dare not approach. Leads to lost opportunities as well as good possibilities that can happen in life. This loss is more tragic than the loss of money.

2. The child likes to take advantage, after growing up, it is easy to lose happiness

The TV show “love protection station” had an episode where a girl wanted to break up because her boyfriend was too interested in taking advantage.

Her boyfriend always plays tricks, calculating ways to take advantage. For example, when going to the supermarket, always wait until noon to go, because that is the time when people display the most products for tasting. As soon as I entered, I ate a lot of dishes. The waiter didn’t give any more, then he immediately argued about life and death: “I don’t know if it’s good or not, how can I buy it?”

After tasting the food, he also asked the staff to weigh and pack it, but then he turned around and threw the bag aside, didn’t bother to take it to the checkout but left the supermarket.

Newly bought clothes do not tear the labels, wear them for 2 days, then bring them to the store to change to another style to wear.

When taking her to a restaurant, the lotus root rib soup had just been served. He had already seen a fly lying in it, but he didn’t call out. After she finished eating, he asked the staff to serve her. service come and complain to reduce money.

Her boyfriend earns a lot of money but still likes to take advantage like that, not only she can’t stand it, but the audience can’t help but sigh.

When questioned by everyone, the young man said: “I just want to save a little bit to give my girlfriend a better life later.”

People who like to take advantage are not necessarily poor, but they will always lack inner peace, so even if they have money, it will be difficult for them to feel happy.

Psychologists say that greedy people are weak children, most of whom grew up with “conditional” love. To fill that void of being unloved or helpless, they had to use what they had obtained from others to fill the void in their souls.

3. Like a parent, like a child

Some time ago, a grandmother in Huai’an, Jiangsu brought her 1-year-old grandson to a store, and picked up a bunch of shrimp to try for her nephew.

The boss stepped forward and advised: “Just let your baby taste a little, don’t take so much.”

The old lady was very angry. “How much can a one-year-old child eat? Is it illegal to eat two shrimps?”.

Not long after, the daughter-in-law came to the store again, cursed non-stop, took a video of the boss and threatened to put this stall online.

Angry boss says: “It’s not that we don’t taste it, it’s that we take too much. We also have to trade.”

An American psychologist said: “In the hearts of children, their parents are the gods and gods they respect. So children naturally absorb the way their parents deal with problems and learn from the whole.”