Once you make a concession, you will ruin your whole life

Parents with “tofu heart” refer to parents who often pamper and pamper their children excessively, making them undisciplined and not complying with the family’s rules. Therefore, as soon as the child starts to quarrel and nag, the parents quickly “give up”, giving in to their will.

A child who is born and raised in that method will not be able to distinguish his own behavioral boundaries when he grows up. Parents may think it is a way to love their children, but that “blind” way of loving over time will spoil a child.

Children will follow the habit of doing everything they want, parents, no matter how much they grumble at first, but do not want to be disturbed, immediately nod their heads in agreement to “finish the matter”. Gradually, they lack a sense of established rules, and may even commit some unnecessary misconduct. If you continue to pamper your child in this way, the child and the parents may regret it for the rest of their lives.

The way of educating the children of world-famous billionaires always makes most of us feel curious. A common question is whether their children are born in a materially adequate environment or have a strict upbringing or “the father’s life, the children’s life”.

With the billionaire Bill – Melinda Gates family, although their happiness was broken, the way they raised their children before really made many people admire. The American billionaire once revealed in an interview that parents agree with their children until the age of 13, the children are free to use mobile phones.

Owning a huge fortune worth about $ 90 billion, but that does not mean that Bill and Melinda Gates will spend it all for their children before that. They have all committed to giving away 95% of their huge fortune to the charity they founded. They always think that life is about sharing, so they often volunteer.

They also teach their children to share with everyone around them. Melinda once said, 3 children have saved a third of their pocket money to set up a charity fund. Parents always encourage their children by contributing twice the amount of money they save.

Or former US President Barack Obama, he also set many rules with his children such as owning iPads, cameras and computers, but not bringing cell phones to school; have to make their own bed and get up in the morning even in the White House… Because clear rules, he says, help a child to be responsible and know what is right.

The period from 2 to 6 years old is the period when children begin to form a sense of rules. This is also the period when children begin to interact with the school environment and will have many social interactions. Parents should establish rules with reason so that children can be shaped and understand what should and should not be done.

Specifically, parents should:

Establish a clear set of rules for your child, including rewards and punishments, to encourage them.

– Patiently explain to your child.

– Punishment should not be canceled or replaced arbitrarily at the will of the child.