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Article by Nick Bilton, published in the New York Times*
It’s been a long day for Eliza, a 41-year-old housewife living with two sons in Los Angeles (USA). After dropping off, picking up, coaxing two 10-year-olds and 13-year-olds to sleep, and cleaning the house – she had time to relax in front of the computer screen.
Like before, Eliza started surfing the net to find something to read to entertain. However, the keyword phrase “child porn” (child p***) has been on the search history ever since.
“I fell into a panic,” Eliza said. A million questions why immediately broke out, making the mind of the mother of two go crazy.
A few days later, when the two were getting ready for bed, she asked the older boy if he had searched for “child pornography” online and if so, what was the reason?
“My son confessed to looking for child porn,” Eliza recounts. “He awkwardly explained that he just wanted to know what his body should look like at its age.”
Not so many years ago, young boys and girls at the tender age solved their curiosity about the body by reading pornographic magazines, spying on their parents’ activities through the keyhole… How about now? Modern teenagers have easy access to the internet’s endless supply of pornography.
And in it, there are hideous depraved genres that give adults goosebumps.
“First, I told her the next time she wanted to see something like that, tell her and we’ll find out together,” Eliza said.
Parents of children in their teens know well that there’s no way they can block them from all online pornography. For example, a father has installed all kinds of dark web blocking software on his computer, only to find out that his beloved son has sneaked over to your friend’s house to discover some kind of weird “pork movie”.
Experts at Crime Against Children Research Center (University of New Hampshire), showed me a lengthy series of studies from 2000 on the prevalence of children’s exposure to pornography. Including up to 42% of internet users (10 – 17 years old) have viewed pornography; 66% of them were accidentally hit in the face by pornography because of ads on websites.
Another University of New Hampshire study found that 93% of boys and 62% of girls were exposed to online pornography during adolescence. In fact, without any scientific research, just turn on your computer or phone to go online – you’ll find it easier to find “pork movies” than the answers to your homework.
For parents, this situation leaves two questions.
– First, does the prevalence of pornography cause much harm to children and indirectly create a sexually deviant society?
– Second, what can parents do to protect their children?
In fact, there is no definite answer to the first question, although it has caused controversy, even creating a multinational culture war.
In a romantic comedy drama Don Jon (Vietnamese title: The Good Guy No) was released in 2013, handsome actor Joseph Gordon-Levitt plays a modern East-Johnson addicted to “pig movies”. Despite trying to find new emotions in love and sex, after all, “the pig movie” still makes Jon’s love life head to the ground. He was forced to wake up to find true happiness.
Critics and many boys have found sympathy in Don Jon, even seeing the film as a true color patch of modern life, reminding them to be sober in the face of depraved culture.
However, many experts and therapists insist that pornography has seriously damaged young people.
According to another expert, who regularly watches teenagers proves the opposite: The rate of unwanted pregnancy among teenagers has dropped sharply in recent years; The number of sexual partners of adolescents also decreased (2015).
David Finkelhor, author of several books on child abuse and director Family Research Lab (University of New Hampshire) says: “If you look at the indicators of sexual responsibility, you won’t see the younger generation going astray.”
But Finkelhor acknowledges the negative, long-term psychological effects of teen exposure to pornography too early.
Back to the second question posed above. Finkelhor and his colleagues said “There has never been an era when children have so easily accessed pornography, especially violent, bizarre genres…”
This forces parents to educate their children, not only about sex, but also what they may encounter online. It is important for children to be educated at the appropriate time, even from a very young age.
I will close my point with a rather sour truth: Because of the information technology revolution, children will inevitably see things that are not meant for children. On the other hand, teenagers in their hot years know how to cooperate with each other to bypass their parents, out of sight they will rush to explore the dark side of the internet called “online porn”.
For many parents and children, it can be frustrating and embarrassing to accept that: Not shying away from dark and sensitive topics is part of good parenting.
What if you don’t educate your kids about the weird things they can see online? It is very likely that parents will face extremely dire consequences.
And Eliza, the mother at the beginning of the article, asserts that she is very lucky because she found the keyword “child pornography” on her computer to be friends with her child in time. In short, must draw the right path for the deer to run.
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