So that children are not selfish and dependent, parents need to avoid the following toxic parenting methods.
Always say “Yes” to your child
Research that linked genes to selfish behavior in children, published in Science Daily in 2013, showed that children who were pampered by their parents as adults only cared about themselves. Children show little empathy, behave badly with others, and lack a work ethic.
To teach children about compassion and tolerance, parents must learn to say “no”: Don’t clean for them, don’t agree to buy things they like, and they shouldn’t talk like that.
In addition, parents need to point out the consequences of inappropriate actions, help the child see the situation from different angles.
Don’t look for opportunities to teach children
Many parents think that children are small, disinterested in everything around them, but the reality is the opposite. Children have excellent observation skills, they easily follow and recognize adult expressions to adjust their behavior.
According to experts, parents need to create many situations to help their children put themselves in the shoes of others to empathize and share. For example, if you want the brothers to help and care for each other, while baking a cake with their children, parents can let their children choose their favorite filling and think about their brother’s preferences.
Not teaching children about empathy, compassion
When children are eight years old, they can understand a person’s emotions based not only on what is going on, but also on the influence of the external environment. That is why, apart from information and news on television, social networks or earphones, parents should talk to their children every day, so that they understand the essence of the problem, and distinguish right from wrong.
Taking advantage of the time when children are psychologically perfecting to help them know how to care for, support, and stand up for others instead of being indifferent to everything, is something parents should do.
Responds to all requests but doesn’t teach gratitude
Working for what is acceptable or being part of the family is an important way to help children realize the importance of helping others.
In addition to teaching children how to express gratitude when receiving help, parents should often ask questions and hypothetical situations around kindness, to form habits in children.
Don’t let your child do volunteer work
Volunteering helps different lives have the opportunity to connect. Kindness in community easily brings people together and tries to understand one another’s experiences. This makes it easier for children to open their hearts, be ready to help those around them, and don’t care about receiving rewards.
Minh Phuong (According to CNBC)