Constantly saying “I love you”
The secret of Mrs. Thai My Nhi is not difficult but consists of only 3 elements: “Love, do not stop and always experience”.
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Many parents often “grim” about their children. They complain of all kinds of problems, from studying to living around. Thai My Nhi is no exception, but she has a clever way of making her complaints more bearable. That is to always say 3 more words: “I love you”.
This habit started with an event, when her eldest daughter was in middle school. One day, the little girl brought home a wooden watch, the result that she learned carpentry at school, to give to her mother.
At that time, Mrs. Thai was busy cooking rice, so she just put the gift on the table and then went back to work. The daughter saw this and burst into tears and blamed her mother, even a word of thanks that her mother did not say.
Thai My Nhi, a Chinese mother with three children, all graduated from the world’s most prestigious university, Harvard. Photo: Sohu
That’s when Mrs. Tsai knew she was wrong and had to change. She immediately explained: “The watch is very beautiful, but I do not praise you too much for fear of your pride. I love you.”
From then on, when talking to her children, she always ended with the sentence: “I love you”. For example, “Son, do your homework and then play, I love you” or “Next time don’t do this, love”…
Through 3 simple words, she wants to convey positive energy to her children. This is also one of the reasons why their family relationship is always so good.
Thanks to that, her children can fully feel the family’s love and care for them. Love expressed in words and actions makes the child’s psyche stronger, safe and confident in everything he does.
No prohibition
With Thai My Nhi, she never said “I can’t” in anything.
She stated that: “The sayings ‘if you don’t study well, you can’t do anything’ will be like a curse, hurting young hearts. The more parents emphasize the word ‘No’, the more children lack confidence, lack motivation to study and quickly give up on their goals.”
She always respects the opinions of her children. Even when planning learning or activities for her children, she always consults with them first so that they understand that they can control themselves, and parents only play a guiding role.
“Suppression and control are unwise actions. The prerequisite for children to courageously pursue their dreams is the trust and affirmation of their parents,” she said. “If only raising children according to what parents have arranged, is it any different from raising a robot?”
The most useful way of education that a Yale University professor believes is: Parents should not make their children a copy of themselves, but must strive to make their children better than themselves.
Always experience
Chinese mothers believe that children need to discover their potential and be inspired to develop their own interests and passions. In the process, it is the parent who takes on the role of a coach.
The experience she emphasizes is threefold: Experiencing equality, experiencing parental support, and experiencing one’s own potential. More than just verbal encouragement, this mother always enforces it with actions.
When she saw that her daughter was interested in scientific research, Thai My Nhi always listened to her daughter’s every conversation. At the same time, she also spent 20 days researching documents, consulting with a lawyer and then encouraging her son to apply for a patent. As a result, her eldest daughter received her first patent while in high school.
Her second daughter is a fan of a Chinese figure skater. So she agreed to let her son learn and practice skating. There are days, when the daughter has to practice from early morning or end at midnight, she is always the driver of the shuttle. She also often gets up at 4 o’clock to cook for her children.
At the same time, Tsai’s youngest son also wrote his first book when he was 9 years old. To achieve this result, she always tries to complete all the work, leaves work at 3pm and then goes with her children to experience and get inspired to write.
Thai My Nhi and her son on a trip back to China to visit relatives in 2019. Photo: Sohu
Ms. Thai affirmed that, “Always experiencing will help young children discover themselves, broaden their horizons. You will have more knowledge, so you will be able to do a lot of things that other people cannot do.”
She always helps her children build confidence in themselves. As long as they dare to commit, dare to experiment, they will always be able to accomplish their goals.
Thanks to that mentality, Thai’s three children later relied on their personal courage to enter Harvard. She is also nicknamed “Harvard Mother” and is asked by many for her secret to raising children.
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