In recent years, many people tend not to want to get married and have children. However, others become mothers at a very young age, even 19, 20 or earlier. A new story shared by a Malaysian doctor shocked everyone even more. Through that, the doctor also wants parents to carefully consider the motherhood of girls when it is too early, when the children are still in elementary school and junior high school.
Specifically, on March 25, Doctor Daya Nandan shared a true story that he himself experienced many years ago, when he was still a trainee. Daya said a woman was brought to the hospital’s emergency room in the middle of the night in labor. What was special was that this woman was a girl who was only 11 years old.
Dr. Nandan Power
He said that he was not at all surprised by the scene, but rather disappointed. However, that was not the most terrible thing.
When she realized that a pregnant woman needed a relative to sign an appointment, Daya quickly recognized a girl standing next to her. He thought it might be mom’s sister, so he immediately asked her to call the 11 year old girl’s mother. But the identity of the person he thought was mother’s older sister surprised Daya. “I asked her sister to call her mother because I thought it would be a complicated delivery. However, the 20-year-old girl is not the older sister of the mother, but is actually the mother herself. The birth of the other 11 years- old girl. Mother’s husband is nowhere to be seen.”.
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Daya was very surprised by this situation. “I wonder what complications I will face tonight? Preeclampsia? Postpartum haemorrhage? Can we save them both?”
And the miracle didn’t happen, neither the 11 year old girl nor the unborn child survived. “A child who wasn’t even an adult was taken from his life that night, and the baby died quickly. The world lost two children that night.”
“This isn’t the first time something like this has happened and it won’t be the last.”said Dr. Power.
Daya said that being a mother at a very young age has caused children to be deprived of their childhood, in addition to causing pain and trauma both physically and mentally. This is also Daya’s post to imply opposition to a law that will be officially enacted by the government of the state of Terengganu (Malaysia) allowing teenagers (including those under the age of majority) to marry at a later time.
Daya Nandan always remembers giving birth to an 11 year old daughter.
In fact, as Daya said, the fact that children are underage but have children has been and is happening all over the world. Part of the reason comes from the fact that parents actively let their children marry and become mothers early, but partly comes from the children being forced, forcing them to have unwanted children. Therefore, the age of puberty for children is very important, parents must be the ones who pay attention and accompany their children.
Talk openly about sex
Parents should often vent and talk to their children. Some parents have the mentality to avoid discussing gender or sexuality with their baby. This is highly undesirable. Instead, parents should share with their children gender-related notes such as:
– For girls: parents should tell the baby about the menstrual cycle, how to use tampons, how to wear a bra, instructions on how to care for private areas, etc.
– For boys: knowledge of erection, ejaculation, semen dreams, how to use condoms … is indispensable for children.
When a child reaches puberty, parents and children should talk openly about sex.
Recognize your child’s changes
Often, due to daily contact, it is very likely that parents will not notice any changes in their child. But parents should really pay more attention to see any changes in their child’s psychophysiology. From there, it is possible to immediately share and listen to children’s beliefs and thoughts and help them cope with the daily changes of the body.
Give your child their own space
It is very good for parents to always be with their children as friends. However, at this stage, children also need their own space. When the child does not want to talk, there is no need to be too pushy, but you should choose another time that is more appropriate.
Set some rules
– Since the child is in the “wet” age, parents should not be too strict but still not relaxed. At this stage, your child will show his biggest ego. Therefore, parents can still let their children decide what is possible after discussing with parents and analyzing right and wrong. Then, ask the child to take responsibility for his mistakes.
– Apart from that, parents also have to set some rules with children such as: go home before 10 pm, don’t drink alcohol, don’t smoke…
Strict but forgiving rules with mistakes
Once a rule is established, the child may break it first. Now, instead of scolding, parents must analyze so that the child understands what is right and wrong in their child’s actions or thoughts. Then express the attitude of not wanting the child to make the same mistake again. Parental forgiveness and tolerance will help children to act and behave better in the future.
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