How to protect girls from temptation, going over the limit?

Lesson 5: How to protect girls from temptation, “going over the limit”?

In this regard, Dr. BS Do Minh Loan – Head of Adolescent Health Department, National Children’s Hospital said that in the case of minors actively sharing with their mothers, a sober mother needs to choose information. think instead of forbidding. That is the factor that helps girls easily confide and share about private things in their love affairs.

According to Dr. Do Minh Loan, instead of giving advice or orientation for children to end the relationship with their boyfriend soon, parents can analyze this situation with their children.

“Parents need to analyze for their daughter to understand, she is still a minor, so having sex at this age is against social ethics and the law.

The child’s refusal of the boyfriend’s request is not only to protect the child, but also to protect the boyfriend from violating Vietnamese law when having sex with a minor (even if it is voluntary from both parties)”, Dr. Do Minh Loan advises his parents.

According to Dr. Do Minh Loan, nowadays, quite a lot of young people think that sex is a proof of love, but this is an incorrect thought and it is easy to be taken advantage of by the “partner” to achieve their goals.

In fact, there have been cases of having sex without love at all. Young people need to know about this. People who really love each other, they will respect and protect each other not to go beyond the limit to have a good future.

Parents need to help their children control the risk of having sexual needs by advising them to limit going out in secluded places, and to go out with a group of friends instead of just two people.

“When a daughter has shared something private with her mother, she herself has had certain concerns and thoughts. What she needs now is to be trusted, cared for, shared and provided with information freely. the right way from the mother.

I believe that if mothers can skillfully talk and analyze with their children, their daughters will understand and know how to protect themselves.”

Do Minh Loan said that in order for children to understand and actively protect themselves, parents must regularly monitor and supervise children. Parenting is never easy, especially when we are parents of growing children.

In general, in adolescence, difficulties not only come from the child’s side, but parents and adults in the family also face certain difficulties.

With the psycho-physiological characteristics of children in this age group, the fact that adults go ahead and show children what to do and what to avoid doesn’t seem to be as effective as in previous stages.

This is the time when children always aspire and want to be recognized as an adult from the adults in the family, even though they are not really as mature as they think themselves.

This can lead to children having inappropriate behaviors (boys practice smoking and drinking; girls can be elegant, clothes and hair don’t match their parents’ eyes…) , even falling in love as a way of expressing oneself as an adult.

Parents being calm and flexible, being soft before the rapid changes of their children is an essential element to be able to best support their children.

“Instead of just admonishing, admonishing and forbidding children to feel trapped, parents can take a step back and change their position from the person in front to the person walking next to their children, I believe they you will be able to stand firm and confidently avoid the temptations of life”, TS.BS. Do Minh Loan advises Parents.

According to Dan Viet