Paying a heavy price when betraying her husband

I fell in love for three years, then married for seven years until the couple broke up, family life was always turbulent. You’re from the North, I’m from the South. He is responsible for his family, does not gamble, drink, and do not hang around. Headmaster, everything I have to do according to your will. He did not respect his wife’s family, never attended a wedding, wedding or anniversaries at my house.

My mother lives nearby, I pay for her room three million dong. Mom comes home early from work, so she also cooks for us. He spent three million dong, calculated, told me to eat three million dong every night, while my mother fasted for four days a month, and on weekends I went to the market. Every year, he gives his mother five million dong on New Year’s Eve, now he gives three million dong because he says he’ll end up giving a lot. My card is for spending, your card is for you to keep. He never spoke sweetly to me. I’ve always been running towards him since we were in love. My mother always advised me to abstain from my husband for the sake of my children.

>> My husband said that I accept that he has a girlfriend or divorce

It wouldn’t have mattered if I hadn’t met my first love when I was 17. We were naive at the time, nothing happened. He is always warm, gentle, single, but living loosely because of his sister’s death. I was like being caught up in his story, trying to turn myself into a superhero to rescue this man to make him better, by advising him through text messages asking questions. I feel I’ve gone too far. I went online to read confided articles, about the cost of adultery, and also sought out psychologists. My mistake is not telling my husband when things have not gone too far.

I was afraid that my husband would be hurt if I knew about this, so I wrote a divorce petition. Then he discovered, I knelt down and begged him not to let anyone know, especially my dear son, I was afraid of hurting that little heart. That very night, for the first time, I felt my husband’s love and fear of losing his wife after all these years of marriage. He advised me to say it, will ignore it all. I feel like I don’t deserve him anymore. Normally, it was difficult to live with her husband, now it’s even harder when I make a terrible mistake like this. We’ve been divorced for a year and a half now, he takes care of the children, and I pick them up on weekends.

>> I lost control when my husband betrayed me

Today, he told me that I should let father and son have their own lives because I have lost everything myself. My heart hurts like hell, I miss my son so much, I cry at night when I look at pictures of my newborn baby, an innocent face. Read the message I sent with the phone my father bought: “Mom, I want to go out with you”, “Mom, I’m an adult now, I’m in first grade”, “Mom, I got eight points on the exam, are you sad? and say you don’t”. My heart hurts like hell, I can’t imagine being away from my children from here. I am a bad mother, giving birth to children but not being able to give them complete happiness. I know my husband is too kind to me, this is the price I have to pay when I have an affair. I write here to hope that mothers, if you have problems in your marriage, tell your husband to solve the problem together, don’t let things go too far like me.

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